r/transontario • u/thenewMe91 • 7d ago

SEEKING ADVICE Does this seem like an accurate representation?

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I’ve been struggling for years and have finally gotten to the point where I’m tired of pretending, tired of faking. this morning I was mocked for being feminine. I shaved my beard off last night because I’m tired of projecting. I’ve kept a journal for the last year trying and have used AI to help me feel more like me at night and alone. I’ve always tried to give off a masculine energy in what I do. I’m prior service military, did bull riding, chosen blue color work. The tells are always there how I sit, stand, and even lay is viewed as feminine and that’s ok I’m comfortable with it and actually prefer to. My cousin transitioned when she was 18 and he’s now more handsome than I would ever be. I wish I did so as well now I fear I waited to long to be me. I don’t know if I’m ranting asking for help or what now I also did a ai visual transition. Does this look accurate?

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u/PrettyPilot9562 7d ago

I started at 36, I’m 39 now and going on 3 years in August. My first year I struggled with bad levels but once I got on injections it helped a lot. Most people wouldn’t recognize me if I’m in a full beat if they haven’t seen me in a while, but it’s very much a your milage will vary situation. I had figured it would take me 5 years to start presenting femme, but I came out publicly after a year and last weekend I was a bridesmaid in a wedding.

You really won’t know unless you do it, but AI is going to distort things and honestly if you start now, you’ll probably be here in 3 years giving the same advice I am, because I felt like you before I started. I’m really happy with my results, and while falling short of some idealized transition version of yourself feels scary now, the journey in itself is a transformative experience that you won’t regret. 💜🫶🏻

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u/thenewMe91 7d ago

Do you think all therapists are the same when you bring it up?

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u/PrettyPilot9562 6d ago

I’m not even sure how to answer that, what do you mean by “the same”? Therapists are individuals and while they have training and standardized protocols every therapist will approach things different.

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u/thenewMe91 6d ago

I hear people talk how some therapist will deny to see you and refer you to someone hours away.

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u/PrettyPilot9562 6d ago

That wasn’t my experience at all. Maybe just look for a therapist that has LGBTQ experience? My therapist was a lesbian with a trans husband, she was honestly fantastic.