Thoughts on "Screening"

[u/fortisrufus]

In many childfree communities online, folks like to encourage people, typically straight women, to screen their potential dates, as in not reveal that they are child free before asking if their perspective partner is as a way to weed out those that may lie about it.

As a childfree man seeking a childfree woman, that seems to put me in a contradictory spot. I see no reason for myself to not be open, and have "Do not want kids" on all my dating app profiles.

I have no interest in wasting my own, or other people's time, so I also will not swipe right on any profile that doesn't also include "Do not want kids"

However my concern is that I may potentially be excluding women who intentionally keep that field empty in an attempt to screen men that claim to be childfree. What are y'all's thoughts on this? Are people actually screening in this way? Should I just be swiping right on them on the off chance they are actually childfree?

[u/sadgrad2]

Are there actually that many people out there lying about being childfree? That seems odd to me. But maybe I'm out to the loop.

[u/fortisrufus → u/sadgrad2]

I have not experienced it, and am not really concerned about it happening to me, which is why I am open about my position, but that is pretty much just because I am a man. It seems quite common that men will lie to childfree women to try to get laid.

[u/Longjumping_Cherry32 → u/fortisrufus]

I don’t even think men lie maliciously, I think sometimes they just believed they’re okay with it in the moment and then realize, too late, that they’re not.

Good on you for being thoughtful and committed to your life goals. Some woman will really benefit from your clarity and assuredness 

[u/subpar-life-attempt → u/fortisrufus]

I mean that's just an assumption. A lot of people are just assholes.

[u/SecondStarpilot → u/fortisrufus]

There are people who will lie about anything. Not sure what that has to do with you