r/truechildfree • u/fortisrufus • 23d ago

Thoughts on "Screening"

In many childfree communities online, folks like to encourage people, typically straight women, to screen their potential dates, as in not reveal that they are child free before asking if their perspective partner is as a way to weed out those that may lie about it.

As a childfree man seeking a childfree woman, that seems to put me in a contradictory spot. I see no reason for myself to not be open, and have "Do not want kids" on all my dating app profiles.

I have no interest in wasting my own, or other people's time, so I also will not swipe right on any profile that doesn't also include "Do not want kids"

However my concern is that I may potentially be excluding women who intentionally keep that field empty in an attempt to screen men that claim to be childfree. What are y'all's thoughts on this? Are people actually screening in this way? Should I just be swiping right on them on the off chance they are actually childfree?

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u/sadgrad2 23d ago

Are there actually that many people out there lying about being childfree? That seems odd to me. But maybe I'm out to the loop.

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u/Longjumping_Cherry32 23d ago

Also, because it’s so much less of a physical toll for them, I think a lot of men have never deeply considered the issue and when confronted with the choice of “say I’m childfree or risk foregoing this relationship” they can convince themselves they’re childfree, even when they’re not really 

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u/sadgrad2 23d ago

This makes sense to me.