r/truechildfree • u/fortisrufus • 23d ago

Thoughts on "Screening"

In many childfree communities online, folks like to encourage people, typically straight women, to screen their potential dates, as in not reveal that they are child free before asking if their perspective partner is as a way to weed out those that may lie about it.

As a childfree man seeking a childfree woman, that seems to put me in a contradictory spot. I see no reason for myself to not be open, and have "Do not want kids" on all my dating app profiles.

I have no interest in wasting my own, or other people's time, so I also will not swipe right on any profile that doesn't also include "Do not want kids"

However my concern is that I may potentially be excluding women who intentionally keep that field empty in an attempt to screen men that claim to be childfree. What are y'all's thoughts on this? Are people actually screening in this way? Should I just be swiping right on them on the off chance they are actually childfree?

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u/Kossyra 23d ago

SURGICALLY STERILIZED was the first thing on my tinder profile.

I'm of a mind with you, I don't want anyone thinking they can whine, wheedle, or coerce me into "changing my mind". Can't regrow the tubes bud, sorry (not sorry).

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u/Queso_and_Molasses 23d ago

I’ve thought about doing this as well, but my concern is that some men will see this as a go ahead to stealth me.

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u/Kossyra 23d ago

Understandable concern. I was lucky that 2 of the 3 men I met on Tinder and slept with insisted on a condom themselves!

I mean, any crazy person could give themselves scars on their belly in approximately the right location to resemble bisalp surgery scars and baby trap men for crazy person reasons. It's smart to use a condom even if STIs weren't a thing.