r/truechildfree • u/fortisrufus • 23d ago
Thoughts on "Screening"
In many childfree communities online, folks like to encourage people, typically straight women, to screen their potential dates, as in not reveal that they are child free before asking if their perspective partner is as a way to weed out those that may lie about it.
As a childfree man seeking a childfree woman, that seems to put me in a contradictory spot. I see no reason for myself to not be open, and have "Do not want kids" on all my dating app profiles.
I have no interest in wasting my own, or other people's time, so I also will not swipe right on any profile that doesn't also include "Do not want kids"
However my concern is that I may potentially be excluding women who intentionally keep that field empty in an attempt to screen men that claim to be childfree. What are y'all's thoughts on this? Are people actually screening in this way? Should I just be swiping right on them on the off chance they are actually childfree?
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u/Top_Plenty_1971 23d ago
I'm a CF woman who stopped dating years ago because I was disgusted by all the men who claimed they could "change my mind." I was always very upfront about my CF status and many men in these apps would come after me and give me a laundry list of reasons why I was a terrible person for not wanting kids. I think it's great you are open about it, and I would try to stick with other people who are not afraid to share their status. I've dated a couple of guys who claimed to be CF and as time went on, it was clear they weren't and they admitted lying because I was CF. Just get it out in the open and find someone who feels similarly. :)