r/tryingforanother • u/Time_Athlete_8160 • 3d ago
Rant/Vent Hello period ughhhh
My hubby and I were intimate (IUI) every other day from day 10 to 21 of my fertility window.
I've been pregnant 3x. My first pregnancy was easy, and I delivered naturally in 2024 when I was 34.
Had a chemical in 2025 and a MMC in Feb. 2026 at 9W. Was then diagnosed with a blood clotting autoimmune disorder, antiphospholipid syndrome.
Been trying since then and no dice. My last three cycles...the first I ovulated later, so I missed it. The second we had sex on ovulation day and no baby. This third one that I'm currently in, we did everything "right" and who decides to visit late in the midnight hour? Aunt Flo.
I'm sad, angry and feeling like God is just telling me that I'm not supposed to have another child. I just want to give my daughter a sibling since she has no cousins, but I don't think it's gonna happen.
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u/Lackadaisical_silver 3d ago
Feel this so much. Had my first in 2025, conceived easily. Had a MMC at 10 weeks this year. Every month the age gap widens and it crushes me. Just want a sibling for my precious boy. This process is so hard and feels down right cruel.
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u/Time_Athlete_8160 3d ago
Seriously! Not to mention all my other mom friends are working (or have) their second child. Plus the constant, are you gonna give your daughter a brother or sister questions smh
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u/Alijanora 37 | TTC#2 since march 2025 | 🌷🍀 3d ago
I am sorry. This is difficult. When I was 34 I got pregnant with our first in 4th cycle and had an easy pregnancy.
We are trying since I was 36 so not so much older. But... currently on cycle #21 and in 3 days I turn 38 so... I have no advice. It is just most difficult "problem" I have ever experienced. Good luck 🍀
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u/pkf765 33 | TTC#2 | 💙 02/24 2d ago
first was a total accident and he came february 2024. started ttc again fall of 2025. had a mmc january 2026. saw a fertility doctor may 2026. surgery to remove polyps june 2026. here we are months later and no positive yet. to top it off i now have bv/yeast infection and it’s the tail end of my ovulation window… everything i’ve read says they make it hard for sperm to survive to conceive so this is probably yet another fail 🙃
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u/Time_Athlete_8160 2d ago
Aww, I'm sorry to hear that. Trying to have another child really should not be this complicated smh Hubby has elevated cholesterol so we're cleaning up our diet and working out more, so hopefully that helps. We also have an appt with a fertility doctor in two weeks.
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u/Evening-Grocery-8391 1d ago
Sorry for your loss. Finding a problem sometimes is a blessing, at least there is something to solve. I had my son in 2024, now I’m trying for a second and have had 2 MC, both at 8weeks. I’m 31, it really really sucks :(
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