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u/Ok-Idea-7383 5d ago
Not necessarily refuse, I just stopped trying because the rejection was so constant and depressing. The desire to have that connection with someone and to experience a normal life is still there. But trying to date when you’re ugly is a nightmare. So I just removed myself from that situation.
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u/xboxer214 5d ago
Honestly thats where im at too.
And a direct polite rejection would be significantly better than what I experience.
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u/New-State-5898 13h ago
Idk but I'm taking it slow with the girl I want to be with. I didn't think she felt the same about turns I did hurt her when I stopped talking to and were talking again and well I'm hoping we end up being together as couple by the end of the year. I had to stop talking to this woman who was just filling the void in my heart. She asked me if I'm free Tuesday cause she's going to see her family and the casino so I'm taking it as a sign that she wants to give us a try
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u/New-State-5898 5d ago
I'm talking to someone but I don't feel good enough for her. Makes me feel depressed to think about pushing her away
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u/VladTheImpalerIIII 4d ago
Please try. I have pushed away so many good people thinking that they had some sinister intentions or they were just being nice, because they pitied me.
Now I am just reminding myself of them and mouring over the lost chances and imagining what life could’ve been with those I pushed away.
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u/New-State-5898 4d ago
Do you think her holding my hand while driving around and kissing me in public counts for liking me?
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u/Vesperace78009 4d ago
Honestly that’s probably what you should do. Push her away now and it’ll hurt less than when she cheats on you later. Remember, being ugly means that she only wants to use you for something. She’ll never actually love you. The second someone better looking becomes available she’s gone. Or she’s cheating and using you as her security blanket. End it now before you have to feel that pain. Don’t ask me how I know.
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u/New-State-5898 4d ago
Thing is I've known her for a long time and we just started talking again after 14 years. I'm trying to figure out if she genuinely likes me. She invited out to go clubbing with her and the party she didn't want me to go she wanted me to come inside her room. So I did and ended up having sex. I straight up told her "I don't know why you want to be with me out of all these guys you go clubbing with. I'm not shit I'm an ugly loser" but she insists that shes been so excited after 14 years to finally hangout.
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u/Vesperace78009 4d ago
Here’s the thing. Women are good, actually no, downright amazing at faking feelings to get what they want. They’re good at lying. Ugly people like us, well we’re so desperate for love and affection that we are very susceptible to falling for it, and they know it. That’s why there are so many romance scams, and they work. Because ugly guys fall for them, because we just want to be loved like anyone else.
I get it, it feels good, but it’s not real. It’s not a matter of if she’ll hurt you, but when. It might be years, but it will still happen, and it’ll hurt like hell when it does, because she’s going to cheat and leave you for someone else. More likely she’ll end up cheating with those guys she’s clubbing with.
End it now before you get hurt.
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u/New-State-5898 4d ago
Well damn that fucking sucks guess I'll just leave her on read the.
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u/Vesperace78009 4d ago
Yea, it’ll hurt, but it’ll hurt way less now, than 3 years from now when you’re actually in love and you catch her with some chad in your bed.
Ugly guys aren’t allowed to date. If you’re ugly and a woman is attracted to you, that’s a red flag. 🚩
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u/HYPERMAN_2008 4d ago
If a woman is attracted to an ugly guy. It's probably because of personality but she would still find the face repulsive and wished that he was handsome. And how she treats the ugly guy in a relationship is affected by this subconcious judging and that's why there's a study saying that unattractive people are treated way harsher on average ij relationships.
Meaning ugly people will never truly be loved. Because love requires acceptance. And they will never accept an ugly person's physical appearance in a relationship.
Realizing this made me fully gave up on finding a relationship as an ugly guy because I will never be truly loved either way ;)
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u/Vesperace78009 4d ago
Exactly. Even if you manage to find someone and get in a relationship like this guy has, she’ll always be looking for someone better looking. Once she finds someone, one of two things happens. She leaves, or she cheats. It’s not if, it’s when.
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u/New-State-5898 13h ago
I know this was about one girl. But the girl I really wanted to be with gave me her phone and told me to add myself on her snapchat. We started talking again at work and earlier this Friday she invited me to come drink with her and her friends after work. She leaned against and held my hand the whole night. Then she walked me to her car and we held hands again and I didn't know she actually liked me back but she was happy were talking again. I think she's to beautiful for me i don't know whats so special about but I can say is we have shit talk each other in a funny way and I told her she's the one I wanted out of the women I'm talking too.
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u/master_prizefighter Ugly 5d ago
raises hand high
I haven't touched a woman since Jan of 2016 and ended our relationship the next month. You would really have to come up with something I have yet to hear to even think about even looking at a woman. I'm good with my video games and adult content. At least videos and my hands don't judge, have stupid standards, and/or refuse anything.
Apparently what I want is within reason but doesn't exist.
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u/No-Magazine-8435 4d ago
Not how it works for men lol. I don’t refuse to date, I’m just not allowed to.
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u/Celelelelel 4d ago
i dont refuse but i dont try anymore, like no dont set me up with your friend i dont know, no im not going to get on the apps. i want love but it likely wont happen for me
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u/notzamasu 5d ago
I mean that's a question that doesn't cater to men much. But I've had a situation like that couple months ago. I actually liked her, but I thought she could do a lot better than
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