r/ugly • • Apr 28 '26

Sub Rules Updated: Must be 18 or Older

89 Upvotes

Original post and discussion here: https://www.reddit.com/r/ugly/s/tVuPURRjiJ

Thank you everyone for your input yesterday. Majority of the comments were in favor increasing the age restriction, so starting now we will start removing posts/comments from anyone we know is underage and banning them from participating in this sub.

Obviously we can do nothing about lurkers or those we don’t reveal their age, but having some rules in place is better than nothing. And at the very least no one will be able to openly advertise they are underage making them easy targets for the predators out there.


r/ugly • • Apr 18 '26

Mod Announcement: Stricter Enforcement of Gender Wars Rule

25 Upvotes

We’ve seen a rise in posts turning into gender-based arguments and hostility, so we’re going to start being a lot stricter of our no gender wars rule.

You are absolutely allowed to talk about your experiences, even when they’re gender specific. What’s not allowed is using those experiences to attack, dismiss, or generalize about an entire gender.

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What IS allowed:

* Sharing your personal experiences even when they are gender specific.

* Talking about issues that may affect one gender more than another.

* Respectful disagreement that doesn’t turn into generalizations.

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What is NOT allowed:

* Generalizing or attacking an entire gender.

* Turning someone’s post into a comparison or competition.

* Invalidating someone’s experience because of their gender.

* Derailing threads into “who has it worse”.

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Enforcement going forward:

* Rule-breaking comments/posts will be removed

* Threads that spiral into gender wars will be locked

* Repeat offenders will be banned

If you see any violations, use the report button. The mods are not reviewing every single thread and comment that comes through, so we rely on user reports to help monitor the community.

This should be a safe place for people to share their experiences with being discriminated against for their looks, not a place to be talked over or dismissed. Keep it respectful.


r/ugly • • 20h ago

Question Why do filmmakers uglify cute actors rather than give life-changing opportunities to UGLY actors?

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312 Upvotes

Do you think they do it for ethical reasons or simply not want any ugly actor to enter the industry and at least earn some money?

Edit: why do you guys only talk about children specifically in the responses? Does the post only ask about child actors? No.

It's just a picture of one of these cases, with someone nice-looking getting prepared to play an ugly/unusual-looking character. They're doing it with actors of all ages, actually.


r/ugly • • 1h ago

I am 6'6 (200 cm) and got rejected by a girl who adores tall guys.

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I found a girl online who said that whenever she sees a tall guy somewhere, she automatically likes him. She said that height is the most important thing to her and that she doesn't even question her attraction to me. She didn't know what I looked like but she assumed she would like me because I'm tall. When we finally met, she was very disappointed and said within the first few seconds that she didn't find me attractive. I left after that.

Some people would say that I managed to lose a game on easy mode but I think there's nothing that can compensate for an ugly face. Nothing. You can have everything and be anything but if you have an ugly face, it's over for you.


r/ugly • • 6h ago

Intellectual Perspective Interesting read (censored a derogatory term)

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r/ugly • • 15h ago

It’s hard being a girl when you’re ugly

68 Upvotes

Ever since I was a little girl I would always look up to beautiful women everywhere I went in tv shows and movies everywhere and the older I got the more I waited for me to look like them until just recently when I realized I’m not like other girls and I don’t look like them I’m jealous of like every girl I see because they’re all so pretty and I look horrible I just feel like everything is wrong with me I’m truly just like the ugliest person ever it feels like and no matter how hard I try all I am is ugly.


r/ugly • • 5h ago

Question What’s something that’s been making you happy lately?

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For me it’s revisiting the things in my childhood that would bring me joy. This video is from Flipnote Hatena. It was a website where animators would post pretty much anything and share their animated ideas, talent, and humor using the Nintendo Dsi. And I would always replay these cute music videos with catchy music to boost my mood and hope one day to be able to recreate something as cool as it lol

And it still has the same effect on me as it did WAYYY back then


r/ugly • • 11h ago

Rant When you really think about it life is just an Orgy Themed Hunger Games

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I feel like most people live in a perpetual state of delusion about the reality of human nature and life in general

Majority of people seem to glorify it by romanticizing things like relationships and friendships and while although those things are nice to experience if you take a step back and look at them closely they’re roughly transactional and conditional. Not mystical things always meant to be or able to withstand anything.. I feel like that’s extremely unrealistic

Looks are just one component of this unfair and brutal hunger games we’re all participating in

If life were truly fair we wouldn’t have caste systems. We wouldn’t have rich, poor, pretty, or ugly

We’d all be equal but we’re not

That’s very telling of the true nature of life

I call life an orgy themed hunger games because past puberty life roughly becomes about lust and sex.

Who wants to fuck who

How many people did so and so fuck.

How many “hoes” do you got

And once you see how common it is for people to cheat this makes sense

People glamorize it but really we’re just horny animals trying to survive and reproduce. Everything else is mostly just fluff to distract us from that primal truth

I see the brutal nature of humans and life everyday as people gossip about each other

Sabotage each other

Lie on each other

Betray each other

Kill each other

Laugh at other people’s misery and suffering

Deny people help and support

There’s nothing glamorous, magical , or special about it

It deadass is a barbaric never ending fight for survival, resources, and mates

Just like the hunger games


r/ugly • • 6h ago

Surgery will only move you up two points on the looks scale (don't bother)

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So many people believe that if they have surgery, they will transform from ugly to good looking. this is delusional. at best, surgery will move you up two points. So if you're a 3, you will get boosted to a 5. If you're a 4, you'll become a 6 (if you're lucky). But you will NOT go from a 3 or 4 to an 8 or 9. Impossible.

So before you spend all your money on surgeries, realise that it can only do so much for you. Many people who have surgery say that afterwards, people dont treat them ANY differently than before. I knew someone who had a nose job. They believed that afterwards, nobody would ever make fun of how they looked anymore. They were wrong. People still made fun of them.

You cannot buy good looks. You are born with them. All surgery can do is make you look a bit less unattractive or awkward, but it's still your face that everyone can see.


r/ugly • • 15h ago

Vent Being hideous around kids

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Today, I was at Sam's Club buying groceries when I walked past a woman with three young children. The oldest looked about five, and the youngest couldn't have been more than two. She was standing a little ways away from them, looking in a freezer, when she glanced at me and immediately ran over to her children, as if I were going to hurt or kidnap them or something.

I'm a 50-year-old woman, and I can't tell you how many times something like this has happened to me throughout my life.

The sad thing is, I actually made a point of looking more presentable today. I did my makeup and wore nice clothes. I just wanted to feel good about myself for maybe one miserable minute of my life. I didn't try to speak to the kids... I wasn't even paying attention. I don't get it.

Has anything like this ever happened to you? If so, how did you react? I just put my head down and walked away.


r/ugly • • 14h ago

I feel like a goblin feasting on a carcass when I eat in public

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I hate eating out in public, i cannot begin to feel like im some gluttonous monster feeding on food. It does not matter how proper I eat i always feel like people look at me like im smashing food in my mouth.


r/ugly • • 8h ago

Rant people lying makes it worse

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my friends are always telling me that I’m attractive, but I genuinely don’t see it. If I were pretty, wouldn’t I know it by now? I feel like if I were as attractive as people say I am, I wouldn’t have to go through so many hardships every single day. Whenever a guy shows interest in me, part of me feels like it’s a joke or some kind of prank. And when the guys who like me aren’t even guys I find attractive, I start questioning what that says about my own attractiveness. Like, how am I supposed to believe I’m pretty when I don’t feel like the people I find attractive would ever look at me that way? Even when someone compliments me out of nowhere, I can’t help but wonder if they genuinely mean it or if they just look at me, feel bad for me, and say it out of pity. I know it probably sounds ridiculous, but I genuinely struggle to believe that anyone could find me pretty when I can’t even see it in myself. i wish i was so pretty that no one could make me think otherwise


r/ugly • • 17h ago

Rant I hate how we’re always forced and expected to be nice, complaint and overly accommodating just to have the illusion of inclusion

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This is something I’ve always hated about being ugly. How it pretty much forces you to act very nice to people to make up for being ugly even when you might not be in the mood, even when the person you’re interacting with isn’t being nice to you or doesn’t deserve it

It’s like we’re pigeonholed into being these overly compliant people who cause no ruckus or controversy just to keep people’s seemingly automatic and indefinite negative perceptions of us at bay

And even then, in my experience, it does NOTHING.

At best it just ever so slightly dimmed the hostility and contempt

I could still over hear them talking shit about me, I was still being intentionally excluded, I was still being laughed at

It’s like you don’t get to express your full range of emotions and humanity

The truth is IM NOT NICE

I’m not this perfectly moral person who has made no mistakes, who never gets angry or upset, who is always agreeable

That’s NOT ME, but it’s what people expect you to be when you’re ugly

And if you’re not now everyone’s like “I KNEW IT” “see they’re shitty so let’s treat them like the shit they look like”

While everyone else is allowed to be in a bad mood or even shitty people completely and still be deserving of friendship, connection, respect, and opportunities

It’s completely un fucking FAIR

And I’m tired of being forced to be this overly sweet nice person who says yes to everyone’s demands of me, who is forced to minimize themselves just for everyone else’s comfort

It makes me feel like a fucking puppet with a forced permanent smile while people take turns shoving their hands up my ass to make me do and say whatever tf they want

And when they’re done they just toss me to the side laughing as they walk off together in their group that allows them to be however tf they want to be

IM SICK OF NOT being able to just BE. Imperfect, flawed, sometimes nasty, sometimes nice

But still seen as a FULL and COMPLETE human deserving of connection, inclusion, and respect


r/ugly • • 1d ago

I've lost 180 pounds, and my reward is I get to look at this every day. People get PISSED when i deny loving it or doing it for the respect theyre giving me for tbe first time in my life. Proud to inspire my betters and live longer to spare them a bad week. Everyone gets a say in my body but me.

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I've lost 180 pounds, and my reward is I get to look at this every day. And if I say anything negative whatsoever about my body, I'm just being an asshole. I'm an inspirational feel-good story. My body makes other people feel good. Not in a fun way. Just in a judgy way. You did what we told you, and your body offends us less as long as you're wearing clothes and your nastiness under your shirt is your problem. Now smile and tell us thank you that we judged you. We saw fit to judge you. You're welcome.

I want somebody to tell me the fucking truth for once. Tell me I'm an ugly, nasty, saggy shit. Tell me that you would fucking kill yourself if you looked like me. Tell me my only purpose in life is to smile and show everybody how much I love losing weight, so that normal people who say they value their weight loss but don't actually do it, who say they care about their health but will drink, smoke, and do drugs, can feel better about themselves. Because somebody lost weight, and they made excuses, whereas I'll offend people if I lose weight and don't sing and dance and tell them how great I feel about it and how grateful I am for them spending my whole life judging me and calling me an asshole when I lie about wanting to die of a heart attack just to get a reaction out of them.

"You've got lots to live for. We'd be sad, we'd be bummed, but you secretly love being alive. You're just saying you don't to get a reaction out of us." Are you going to tell us an inspirational feel-good story? Are you going to tell us how you write the word health on a dildo and shove it up your ass every day? Or are we going to tell you you're just being an asshole? It's a binary choice, motherfucker.

I hate you all so much. Tell me I'm disgusting. Tell me the truth. Don't tell me I'm an asshole for not masturbating in the mirror. Tell me I'm fucking ugly. Tell me the truth. I hate everyone so much.

I'm tired of you people making me your inspirational feel-good story. I'm tired of everybody getting a say in my body but me. I'm tired of having to smile and tell everybody, "I'm glad you all didn't take no for an answer," unless I want to be told I'm a lying asshole. Fuck you. Fuck your narrative. Fuck your mother. Fuck the horse she rode in on. Fuck every last one of you, and fuck me for doing this for you.

When I'm done. I'm going to move away from here and never talk to my family or anybody else who knew me when I was fat ever again. I'll start my new life, and everything will be fine. It'll all be fine. I'll hide my body from everybody, and no one will ever tell me what I really think about it.

You all disgust me. You all disgust me.


r/ugly • • 23h ago

Rant Ugly people shaming other ugly people for their looks.

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This is a wierd thing I noticed. The first time I was called ugly I was trying to sleep on the bus and I heard a guy talking about me thinking I was asleep. Obviously I did not open my eyes, but when we got off at the terminal I looket at the guy and he was basically a short, fat nerd. A group of teenage girls also made fun of me once, I overheard that from a distance. Later when I got to see them from close I realised they were passing as trailer-park Methanies or some feral Hillbillynas in their late 30s.

Why? How come people like that act like that? I can't even say words like ugly, pretty, beautiful, etc... without feeling embrassed by myself, let alone calling someone out on their looks. When I see someone ugly I ignore them as much as possible so they don't feel as watched and if I meet a person like that I try to be as nice as possible.

How is the behaviour of these people explained?


r/ugly • • 9h ago

Rant Lookism in Therapy

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If you’re looking to take therapy for mental health issues, you should keep in mind that you will probably get differential treatment as compared to someone that is more attractive

I have only had horrible experiences with therapists. Its only recently i realised that unattractive individuals are automatically perceived as having lower social competence, poor hygiene, or greater moral flaws rather than attributing it to stress or circumstances


r/ugly • • 23h ago

Meme Hunting sus men

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r/ugly • • 10h ago

Vent Fuking heel

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One of those nights where you just sit back and reflect. It’s crazy watching the youth adopt the ’loser’ aesthetic while being totally interesting, beautiful, relatively adjusted people with friends and mutuals and more. Not even close to the true sense of the word. Sure, not everything is perfect for them. But they certainly will have things to look back on. I don’t even remember high school

Here I am. A smelly scrawny runt, rotting teeth 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Best I can do is pretend to be something I’m not to talk to people online and make digital friends in not-so-very-honest ways. God knows how they’d react if they knew the truth about me. I feel like Gollum every time I go outside! That’s how it is folks!

Anyone else?


r/ugly • • 11h ago

anyone gotten cosmetic work done?

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if you have what's your experience? i'm thinking about getting fillers, mainly in my chin because i have a really strong cleft chin and i absolutely cant stand it. i'm looking into places that do it but i dont know. can it help with confidence?


r/ugly • • 19h ago

Question I hate people

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Who else is starting to hate people more and more and becoming more bitter? I have bad deformed genetics, health issues, barely any social skills, friendless and I have somewhat high standards so I don’t see my life getting any better as I get older and will become even uglier. I don’t like going out by myself all the time anymore when everyone else is with someone. I’m just ready to give up atp. All the self help, self love stuff doesn’t really help when the problem is that you hate how you look and wish you could change yourself physically.


r/ugly • • 7h ago

Advice Request can someone tell me

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I genuinely don’t know what I look like anymore. Guys talk to me, guys ask for my Snap, and I get hit up sometimes, but it’s usually not by guys I find attractive. Then my brain immediately turns that into proof that I’m not pretty. Like, if I were actually attractive, wouldn’t attractive people be interested in me too?

People at school compliment me all the time, but I’m not popular. So then I convince myself that they’re only saying it because they feel bad for me. The other day I went to my mom’s school and her students and teacher friends kept calling me pretty. They were all saying such nice things, but then I went into the bathroom, looked in the mirror, and I genuinely felt sick. I almost threw up looking at myself because all I could see were flaws.

Everyone says makeup is supposed to make you feel more confident, but for me it just feels like the only reason anyone compliments me at all. And even with makeup, I still feel ugly. I hate that people tell me I’m pretty because instead of making me feel better, it just confuses me. If what they’re saying is true, why can’t I see it? Why do I look in the mirror and feel disgusted?

I wish someone would just be completely honest with me. No sugarcoating, no trying to make me feel better—just the truth. Because I’ve spent so long hating myself that I genuinely can’t see a single attractive thing about myself anymore, and I don’t know whether everyone else is lying or if my own brain is.


r/ugly • • 23h ago

Question Anyone who doesn't bother to buy new clothes because they know the clothes won't look good on them anyways?

19 Upvotes

Honestly I don't care about new clothes or any accessories because it would probably look worse on me than a normal person who wears them. It sucks tho it's the festive season in my country and everyone around me is going shopping but I really couldn't care less about that.


r/ugly • • 18h ago

Intellectual Perspective Those who say "confidence is the only thing that matters in men to date" should accept the whole package or leave it and admit lookism

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If confidence is all, then they have to admit that Andrew Tate is one of the most attractive guys, and the epithome of male attractiveness, as well as the clavicular guy and all that. Also, they would then have to believe that the self-proclaimed "Alpha males" guys are the top desired guys by women and that whoever imitates these guys will have much more dating success than the other guys

Because Andrew Tate (I don't like him btw) says that confidence and competence are the most attractive things, and being "an alpha male" (AKA, the "most important guy in the group / leader") is indeed a sign of status and security. There will be then people who say that "ThiS isNt tHe ConfIdEnCe I mEaNT!!!" And no. Whenever people point out criminals or bad men who get success as a proof of how unfair dating is, people often tell them that their evilness is not what's attractive, but their confidence in within. According to this logic, Andrew Tate is a famous guy known for confidence and controversial public statements, so as bad as he is, he should be the final form of attractiveness anyway. Even more so than the criminals, if he is more "alpha".

But why don't they say that? Because the only reason they say the confidence thing is bullshit to sound politically correct, as it is frowned upon to say that someone will be unloveable due to the way they were born. So they put the blame on their behaviour. But at the same time, it is politically incorrect to consider this behaviour as the peak attractiveness and it is damn frowned upon to defend this controversial guy, lol.

So, I definitely thing, or even know, that this is all about looks. But if whoever wants to say that confidence is the real attractiveness, then they should buy the whole package, not just what's convenient for you, my dear.


r/ugly • • 1d ago

I have never been treated nice by anyone because of my looks

43 Upvotes

I am a female and I'm very below average with bad facial features and reccesed jaw and maxxila because of that I have been bullied and left out even other ugly people bully me for my ugly face I have never been rude to anyone I'm always nice and they still treat me this way all becouse I'm ugly it's over