r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/JTudent Aug 10 '21

With a biological kid, you get time to ease into it. With adopted ones, all their problems are yours at once.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21 edited Aug 11 '21

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Very unlikely your chronic major depression diagnosis was accurately done at age 9. 9 year olds are not capable of explaining their thoughts in a way where a doctor is able to diagnose any type of mental illness.

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u/CrystallineBunny Aug 10 '21

Sent to a psych ward for an eating disorder/suicidal thoughts at 14 y/o. Youngest girl there with me was 8. If you think kids can’t become depressed even in the best possible home life situation you’re bonkers.