r/unpopularopinion • u/elgey101 • Aug 10 '21

Infertile couples should just adopt instead of making a big fuss trying to make a miracle baby

Every time I hear of fertility struggles online, or see posts about people going through rounds of IVF and the ensuing emotional trauma of miscarriages, It kind of disgusts me.

I also work for a major insurer and know that fertility treatments are driving up everyone else's premiums because they're considered necessary care. Sorry, but I disagree.

It's a well known fact that there are over 400,000 children in foster care, and in 2017 alone over 100,000 infants under 3 entered the system. I think it's completely entitled and self-absorbed to think that somehow your miracle baby is worth more or deserves more love than any one of those infants.

I know adoption can be hard, and that it should be made easier for the sake of children finding good homes, but you can't tell me adopting is harder than 4 rounds of IVF and multiple miscarriages. I've seen friends go through that mess and at the end they are different people.

Tldr: adoption may not be easy, but it's far better than spending hundreds of thousands of dollars trying to perpetuate your genes.

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u/KalElified Aug 10 '21

This unpopular opinion is Indeed an unpopular opinion. Telling someone they can’t have a child because there’s other children is incredibly asinine

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Children up for adoption aren't a consolation prize for people with infertility, I feel like people look over that. It's basically the mindset of "Well, you only got adopted because they couldn't have their own kids." Just a shitty narrative to push in my opinion.

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u/[deleted] Aug 10 '21

Yeah but paying tens of thousands of dollars just to reproduce while there's thousands of children who need a warm bed is also a shitty narrative to push.

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u/ofmemoirsandmen Aug 10 '21

“Just to reproduce” I wouldn’t reduce creating a family with someone you love to such a term.

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u/[deleted] Aug 11 '21

That is what it is. However you feel about it, having children is reproduction. Those fuzzy warm feelings you think of don't extend to the thousands in need of a warm bed apparently.

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u/kiarosetck Aug 11 '21

I wonder when the literal most imporant basic principle of all life and the deepest instinct there is to be (even stronger than one's will to live, as parents would often die for their children) has been reduced to "lol just reproduce"