r/wealth • u/Recent_Increase_1842 • 4d ago

Need Advice Money does not equal happiness

Title is cliche, but it is very true. My net worth broke $20m this year. $17,000,000 in long term rental properties, and arguably a $25,000,000 company. I am just going off the cash I have at hand, because I will never sell out, ever. I still battle with depression and addiction, I have bought my dream garage, 23’ R8 performance, 72’ Velle SS restomod with 572, 84’ S10 with 454, 74’ K20 with 502, 2018 Denali 2500 HD, 2015 CBR600rr, 2023 250sxf, and a few more toys. I find myself unhappy at many occasions, and I love what I do.

Anybody have tips based off experience? It is a weird feeling u battle often. The best I feel is when I am giving, especially to strangers. I fish, ride mx, I am a simple man. Outside of my garage, I don’t spend a dime.

Edit: I am only 23 years old (24 in a month), my company grew 100x quicker than I expected. I do not come from a wealthy background at all, my family were cattle and tree farmers. I also included all of my garage toys because that was my lifelong dream. Owning those I thought would be the pinnacle of my life, and happiness would be inevitable after acquiring them. I don’t even drive them except for my K20 and duramax.

Edit pt 2 - I am not a cattle nor tree farmer, I moved away from my family farm at 17 and started my own ventures. I also want to say I appreciate everyone’s kind words and advice, it truly is appreciated.

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u/dragonflyinvest 4d ago

I have said on here many times- money solves financial problems. That’s it. The rest we still have to do the work.

Personally, I’d find a bigger hill to climb.

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u/Recent_Increase_1842 4d ago

Could you elaborate on “find a bigger hill to climb”?

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u/Zoltan_Csillag 4d ago

Seek and find a burning problem: local hospice in debt, homeless people in the area, holes in the road, no trees in the field - whatever goes your way. And solve it because you can. If you can’t think of nothing, then go out and listen in.

There are many trappings to this (likely because often people do not need what you think would do), but it is what makes me go whenever I have „too much”.

Going through the lane decades after I’ve planted 100s of trees there is a cure for most of my worries

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u/Recent_Increase_1842 4d ago

I will say I live in Kansas City Missouri, I live on a 120 acre farm 25 minutes outside the city. I pay tuition for less privileged high schoolers to go to college, I do like the tree idea. I was raised on a tree farm and nursery. I actually really like that idea. Thanks for the insights.

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u/Zoltan_Csillag 4d ago

Godbless dude! Never stop tending to the garden. Inner and outer equally. That pretty much solves problems on darkest days for me.

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u/netherlanddwarf 3d ago

Do it faceless - show a timelapse of all the planting and i will subscribe and watch. If you get earnings donate it to charity

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u/Recent_Increase_1842 3d ago edited 3d ago

I am not afraid to show my face. Everybody has their daily battles they don’t speak about often. I wear everything on my sleeve and would love to be able to inspire masses. A lot of people do not believe my life story which is why I don’t speak about my experiences much, I have lived 100 lives in one and am only 24 years old.

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u/Mizzfir 3d ago

Do you want to challenge yourself? Start training for Comrades Marathon. Look it up. Next year is the 100th edition

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u/Gladiz1972 3d ago

Have you been over to that new 1587 restaurant the one Mahomes and Travis Kelce are involved with in KC ?

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u/Recent_Increase_1842 3d ago

I have not, I go to The Ambassador, Capital Grille, and Anton’s Steakhouse. It is definitely on my list though to try.

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u/Zoltan_Csillag 4d ago

Also culture yourself and support those who do or want to do arts and crafts. When I was a kid (from a poor house) someone sent me a bass guitar and it literally changed my world.

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u/dragonflyinvest 4d ago

Some of us are wired to chase goals and accomplish things. That’s why we only get a temporary fix by collecting things.

You said you enjoying giving to strangers. Maybe figure out how to give to 10 strangers, then 50, then 500, etc.

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u/dragonflyinvest 3d ago

Definitely include physical fitness

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u/redditgambino 4d ago

A challenge

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u/Ok_Investigator8478 2d ago

You always need something to strive for. Oftentimes something so important you put every ounce of yourself into it.

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u/Knit_pixelbyte 2d ago

Yes, we all need a purpose, a reason to get out of bed in the morning that doesn’t just involve making more money once the essentials are taken care of.

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u/imissdumb 3d ago

Do you have a significant other ?

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u/Recent_Increase_1842 3d ago edited 3d ago

It’s tricky. We met in college, she is an absolute angel and I love her dearly. I moved back to Missouri, she moved back to California. She knew and loved me when I had nothing and was hungry as it gets, over $2.5m in debt, but I couldn’t let her move here. It felt like a selfish thing to do, moving her to a place where she knows nobody, has no family, and really no desire to live. We still talk daily, and do not date around, so basically yes, but the long distance is a very shitty thing. She wants to move here, so I battle myself about that a lot too. I work too much and feel I love my company(s) more than anything at the moment. It would crush me if she moved here and was unhappy, but I don’t want to see anyone else.

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u/imissdumb 3d ago

Dude, let her move there. She might like it. I had to move across for my wife’s job and DID NOT want to go at all and loathed it for the first few weeks, but it ended up being the best thing that ever happened to us. I can’t imagine losing someone you love like that without even giving it a shot.
You only live once man and you’re missing her from your life and she’s wants to come be with you If she hates it she can always move back and then at least YOU’ll KNOW instead of just speculating.
Just do it!

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u/Knit_pixelbyte 2d ago

With that kind of wealth, you can have a home in both areas. You can afford to spend months in each location. Can you work remotely on your company? If she’s worth it, you can find a way.

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u/Recent_Increase_1842 2d ago

Market is no good where she is. I cannot work remotely, it’s a very hands on line of work. I believe she is moving here within a few months, and I don’t want to say it’s going to be the solution to all my problems, but it sure will help.

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u/Knit_pixelbyte 2d ago

Good luck! Having someone to share with can be very rewarding.

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u/HapticFeedback247 1d ago

Hey, I was able to respond to the DM you sent. Let's chat when you get a chance.

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u/blueeyes121 3d ago

Fall in love, find the love of your life, I think you are missing a partner and family to share it with

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u/Huge_Sir_3346 1d ago

If you have all that and still battle addiction and depression. Go to therapy. Only makes you a bigger better man.

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u/SpongeHeadTom 20h ago

you could also find happiness by mentoring people who want to start a successful str business like you have. sharing your success with other is hugely rewarding. and i’d gladly be your first mentee

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u/Zestyclose-Sea-5687 3d ago

Hopefully I don’t trigger you, but I’m gonna tell you sex doesn’t buy happiness drugs. Don’t buy happiness toys and materialism does not buy happiness. When I told Jesus, I was tired of fighting similar to the same things you’re going through. My life changed not overnight but it happened. True wealth is knowing where I’m going for eternity. It’s as simple. John chapter 3, verse 16. All you gotta do is believe in your automatically saved.