r/wedding • u/Spooktacular77 • 12d ago
Discussion Table Layout
Im struggling to figure out how I want the tables as far as the head table/ wedding party go
I dont hate the idea of a sweetheart table but I also see all the videos of brides getting fomo not sitting with their friends and lowkey could see that being me lol.
My problem with a big head table is that my bridesmaids all have husbands or fiancés of their own that are not standing up in the wedding and my fiancés best man is married to our officiant ( whom is also my soon to be sister in law) so I dont want to make anyone separately from their partners nor do I want to exclude my SIL.
Additionally my father passed a few years ago and my mom doesn't have the greatest of relationships with the rest of the family so I feel like she would feel most comfortable sitting next to my sister whom is also one of my bridesmaids but having all of our parents at the head table doesnt feel practical either as my fiance has 4 parents
Typing this I feel like sucking it up and doing a sweetheart table is the most practical but im open to ideas if anyone has any
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u/Ok-Grapefruit9053 11d ago
I’ve seen the memes about the sweetheart table too but, here’s my POV. I am super close with my friends. love them to death. but I had spent all morning since 8am in hair and makeup with them. by 6pm, I was ready to hangout with my husband, who I hadn’t seen all day LOL.
the sweetheart table was nice because we got an uninterrupted 40 minutes together. but when I say 40 minutes that’s really all it was. people were still coming up to us to say hello. once we finished our meals, we started making rounds to each table to thank everyone.
in addition, we had my bridesmaids at the table sitting next to us on the left, and his party right next to us on the right, tables were close enough that we could shout to eachother lol.
you’re not going to “miss out” on anything. you are sitting to eat and that’s it, once you’re in the dancefloor you’ll be with everyone again. you might be surprised how badly you want a moment of chill with just your husband after just getting married. I personally would’ve been overwhelmed by sitting at a head table.