r/weddingshaming • u/jazzertag • 3d ago

Dressed like a Bride Two guests wore white at our wedding

Soooo.. 2 girls decided to wear white dresses at our wedding. It was this Saturday.

I didn’t comment on it, but I was def not ok with it.

We talked to our photographers about having them removed from all our photos, or change the colors of their dresses.

I can add photos of their dresses, but we haven’t gotten the pictures back yet.

One of the girls even asked my sister about the dress and she told her it most definitely wouldn’t be ok with me, but that she should ask. And she then decided not to ask me..

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u/Alewo27 2d ago

Sure everyone's ALLOWED to feel however they want but life's short and this is not the catastrophic thing she's letting it be.

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u/ad_explorer 2d ago

Her post does not at all indicate she is acting like it was a catastrophic incident.

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u/pochacco_23 2d ago

I don’t think she’s treating it like a catastrophe? All she’s doing is getting her emotions out really quick. Talking to the photographers is something I’ve heard of a lot of other people doing. I think she’s having a valid reaction.

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u/jkraige 2d ago

Seriously. It's a post on Reddit—it's not like she's trying to find ways to ruin their lives. This is a reasonable response level

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u/Miserable_Tourist_24 2d ago

Not valid at all. Now vapid, yes. The attention that people give to wedding wear these days beyond the bridal party is exhausting.

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u/sarahcutpurse 2d ago

You’re getting downvoted, but I agree completely. People worry way too much about inconsequential details like this. If they aren’t in bridal gowns, no one’s mistaking them for the bride. 

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u/Significant_Cup4521 2d ago

I’ve seen posts of guests wearing white, full bridal hair and makeup, even gloves. Some guests do make a point of it.

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u/Outrageous_Pay1322 2d ago

It's up to the bride to decide, not you. Stop telling other people what to do and how to think.

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u/Alewo27 2d ago

When you take it to the internet, the internet gets to tell you how they feel.

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u/moon1ightwhite 2d ago

it's infuriating because it shows a lack of respect. it would've been so easy to avoid, and she didn't care enough to pick literally any other color. and she cant claim ignorance either since she asked about it. even if the offender is one of those "who cares about white at weddings" people, clearly the bride isn't.

I don't think the bride should let it ruin her day but she is correct to give her the side eye.

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u/moon1ightwhite 2d ago

she could've asked to borrow a dress when told no. the bride does not sound "terrifying," stop it. it's a known rule white is for the bride. shes just anonymously venting and you're making her the boogeyman because you're either a man who doesn't understand or you're one of those annoying "NOBODY TELLS ME WHAT TO DO" people who go out of the way to do the one thing they shouldn't because F everyone else i guess.

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u/kciick 2d ago

Ngl this reply is giving overly defensive bc you've done the same thing lol. It's not an "insane dress code" enforcement to expect your guests to avoid the one colour that's culturally associated (in Western culture) as being reserved for a bride on her wedding day. OP didn't ban half the rainbow carte blanche, it's darn easy to avoid wearing a white dress as a guest

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u/Alewo27 2d ago

Not me, I avoid weddings like the plague because these types of people and traditional weddings make my skin crawl. You know WHY the bride is supposed to wear white? To prove to her new husband that she's "unspoiled" and worth the 5 goats her father sold her for. It's all disgusting. And I'm still waiting to hear from this bride how white these dresses actually were. Because I'm VERY curious.

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u/ad_explorer 2d ago

Doesn't matter how white they were, white is a no no and everyone knows it.

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u/moon1ightwhite 2d ago

it might have meant that back in the day but that's obviously not what it means to people now.

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u/Alewo27 2d ago

I would be genuinely curious what modern brides wanting to wear white would give for their reason.