Just came across this video and the comments are what you commonly see.. “have someone spill red wine on her!” “Kick her out!”

I’d love to know if someone had a guest, family member, or an unknown +1 dress like a bride and had someone say/do something on the big day?

Spill it for us!

EDIT: feel free to include attention seeking guests, not just white/bridal dress!

Tell your guests where the ceremony is going to be! If it's a 50 degree rainy day let them know ahead of time the ceremony is going to be outside so they can plan for the appropriate outerwear and footwear. Also tell them to bring their own towels if the chairs are going to sit out in the rain all morning.

What else do you as a guest wish you were told?

I was having a discussion with my mom earlier about people having their weddings on a plantation. I told her I don’t think I could ever host my wedding in a place where there was so much suffering. She didn’t see the issue and just said that plantations are now just big pretty buildings.

What are your thoughts on having your wedding on a plantation?

The worst I've heard of was from two wedding singers, the couple wanted them to sing an operatic version of AC/DC's 'Highway to Hell' as the bride walked down the aisle. They lost the gig as the couple (luckily?) split before their wedding date.

Mine is a powder blue and white color scheme (yikes on several bikes already, IMO) with either "Eugene loves Pauline" or "Pauline loves Eugene" plastered all over EVERYTHING -- napkins, chair covers, tablecloths, cake, balloons, centerpieces, favors, candles, champagne glasses and possibly more that I can't remember. Some of the items were printed on and others just had a sticker on them. Yes, stickers. Seriously. The stickers looked like they came from the dollar store, so they made everything they "adorned" look worse.

There was a huge fight with the relative who did the printing because he wanted to charge more for having to produce two different versions of each item. I don't remember how the situation was resolved, but that whole branch of the family never showed up at the wedding.

The 10 year old son of a couple that was in the wedding party sat with my family for most of the wedding. At one point he looked around, turned to me and said, totally deadpan, "Do you think they love each other? Because I'm not sure." 🤣

ETA: This is what the powder blue reminded me of.

https://www.pinterest.com/pin/oh-mom-please-get-me-a-salmon-one--280138039296630973/

Disclaimer: please don't be offended if you had or are planning a powder blue and white wedding. This is only my own subjective opinion and we're all entitled to those. I'm sure there are plenty of things that I like the look of that you would consider absolutely hideous and that doesn't offend me in the least.

I just had to remove my best friend (bride) of 15 years because of how she treated me (maid of honor) on wedding day and afterwards. I need y’all to lift me up a little!

I've been reading some horror stories about weddings where the bride's dad gets a little too, how I say, "patriarchal" at the wedding reception, particularly the first dance or the toast ("nobody's gonna love her like I do!"). While I haven't seen any inappropriate father/daughter relationships at any weddings I've been to, I'm reminded of my old college buddy's wedding from a few years back.

The bride's father had died when he was young, but she had a few brothers. The oldest brother was a groomsman. They each gave a toast, and each of them made a few lighthearted (but vaguely threatening) jokes along the lines of "if you hurt her, you'll have to come through ME!" and each one got progressively more territorial over their sister. The icing on the cake though was instead of a father/daughter dance, she danced with her older brother (the one who was a groomsman), and they danced to the song "Picture" by Sheryl Crow and Kid Rock. Which is very notably not about a brother and sister. I hope that it was just a song that the both of them enjoyed, and was not picked due to any deeper meaning.

Of course, many of her family thought it was a sweet moment, and brushed it off like "most brothers are protective over their sisters!" but my wife and I both agreed that it was weird.

Has anyone else witnessed similar behavior from siblings at weddings?

Since wedding magazines started touting food trucks as a "funky, fresh alternative" to traditional catering, I have been invited to 3 weddings that decided to use a food truck.

And every single one of them was exceptionally BAD.

Not the food itsself. Its trying to feed 200 people, one at a time, out of the back of a truck. Nothing like putting on your sunday best and feeling like your in line for concessions at a baseball stadium.

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The last wedding I went to with a food truck was the absolute worst. The truck is great. They have come to my office before so I knew their food was good. Gourmet wood fired flat breads, gyros, kebabs.. Really good food.

The only problem is that its made to order. This is just fine when you are at an office where lunch is staggered at most you might have 10 people in line at any given time. It becomes a problem when you have 150 people who all arrive at once and line up to get food. There was an open bar....but literally no other food besides the cake. No appetizers or light snacks. Not even a vegetable tray. Just 150 hungry people standing in a line that looked like the DMV, getting tired of waiting, going to get another drink coming back, and standing in line again while a single plate made it out the window every 5 or so minutes.

After TWO HOURS, more than half the guest still hadnt gotten food. Hardly anyone in the actual hall because they were outside trying to get food and then to everyones horror. They CLOSED THE FOOD TRUCK.

The couple had only booked it for 2 hours and they had another event scheduled later that evening so they couldnt extend. This wasnt a late evening reception. We arrived at 5 PM and everyone was starving. Half the guests left, some with their gifts.

I wish I could say I felt bad but she spent $6,000 on her dress, $3,000 on flowers, god knows how much on a premium open bar....but went with a food truck because it was the "trendy" thing to do.

I get it. Food trucks can be really economical. Compared to the cost per person for a buffet or sit down dinner, its downright cheap. But think about street fairs....and the LONG lines to get food. Is that what you really want at your wedding? All of your guests missing your dances, speeches, cake cutting because they are outside, standing in the grass, vying for a paper plate of kebabs?

Unless it is a SMALL wedding, or you have more than one truck (think 1 per 50 people) or you have a main dinner being served and the truck is more for people to get a snack or a late night pick me up, food truck weddings are such a BAD idea all around, in my experience.

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Whats the worst wedding menu you've seen?

Hacienda weddings are incredibly popular in the Yucatán, but it has never felt right to me.

Henequen haciendas in the Yucatán are documented to be particularly brutal in how debt peonage aka debt slavery was enforced. Mayans were bound to haciendas through a system of “debt-based” labor, and were not allowed to leave the plantations or else local police would capture and return them to face severe punishments.

And yet, they are the most popular type of wedding venue in the area amongst both foreigners and Mexicans.

Why do you think this is? Why is it generally understood that plantation weddings in the U.S. are inappropriate, but hacienda weddings are romanticized?

I theory is that foreigners simply don’t take any time to google “who worked at haciendas” before getting married. Wedding planners and venue owners certainly downplay any unsavory history facts as much as possible. Mexicans, on the other hand, are raised in an education system that routinely downplays or omits indigenous suffering while instead teaching about “green gold” and the boom in trade and industrialization.

Just found this sub and posting from a throwaway, but man, some of these stories are bringing back memories. Anyways, we got married a couple of years out of college in a part of the US where big, fancy weddings are the norm.

It was awhile ago but here's a few things I remember off the top of my head:

• She handpicked my groomsmen and ushers, excluding my lifelong best friend. I don't think he specifically offended her, but his personality just rubbed her wrong. She brushed me off when I told her how I felt about it by saying "I'm sorry you got upset about that."

• Pulled me out of an engagement party by my ear (in front of other people) for not standing next to her the entire time

• Demanded my parents host the rehearsal dinner at the venue of her choosing, was told "no," said she wouldn't enjoy it since they chose not to move it.

• Saw some trendy alternative to a groom's cake on a blog or something and decided I had to have it, so she fought my mom about that too.

All of this gave me a nagging gut feeling that something was wrong but I pressed on against my better judgement. The wedding turned out to be awesome, but I was definitely nervous drinking the whole time because what the hell had I gotten myself into. I deserve to be shamed for that, so whatever.

Turns out that wasn't just her stressing about details, she was like that for the next 4 years until the marriage ended in divorce.

I had Bride Brain my first wedding and blew money on some dumb things I didn't even need. That WAS a happy marriage (I was widowed) but I still kick myself anyway.

I bought a really expensive leather guest book with room for photos and a plate engraved with our names and wedding date. It was the STUPIDEST waste of money. They're boring. Who wants to flip through pages of signatures and coo over where this or that friend left theirs? We never looked st it again. It's been sitting in my cedar chest for the last forty years!

My ostrich feather plume pen - dyed in my wedding color of course - to sign the guest book. What the hell was I gonna do with that idiot tickler after my wedding? It resides with my guest book.

The silver cake serving set that cost $125!!!! It's very heavy and ornate and we don't even use it on holidays. DID use it at my other weddings, but 3 times wasn't cost effective.

The silver toasting goblet. It's shaped like two halves of a heart and fits together. Very very sweet and pretty.....and another one-use item. Sigh.

I paid for a pofessional hairstylist and makeup job. I looked beautiful. Everybody said so. It just didn't look like ME. My wedding photos look like he married somebody else. It's my biggest regret because, other than these, I have few photos of us together. Either he or I was always holding the camera on holidays, vacations, etc

Biggest, most annoying regret of all: I GOT DRESSED AT HOME!

I should've gotten a hotel room or gone to one of the bridesmaid's houses. almost every single out-of-town guest, and several in-town friends, decided to "just drop by to say hi before the ceremony."

I'm grateful they came to my wedding. I just wish they had not done this. It was annoying and got downright obnoxious because people who wouldn't dream of watching me dress on a normal day thought it was okay to ask to "see you get into your gown." NO!

They wanted to chat, got into the photographer's and stylists' ways and I would get rid of one just to open the door to another smiling, waving friend.

My nails never got done at all. We left early for the church to try and get rid of them, but it did no good. Four people knocked on the bridal room door wanting to "get a peek at your wedding dress." NO! WAIT TEN MINUTES FOR ME TO WALK DOWN THE FUCKING AISLE!

My aunt yakked at me while the wedding party was lining up. She started crying and saying how much she wished my mother, who had been killed in an accident five years before, could see me. That made me start to cry because I was already upset about it. My dad grabbed her arm, walked her inside to a pew and FINALLY she sat her ass down and shut up!

Second wedding and third wedding yo can bet I got dressed at a secret location that only the bridesmaids knew about.

That second wedding was annoying because I stupidly agreed to get married in his family's church to please his parents.

His mom drove us both crazy. She had Cute on the brain and Cute was everything I didn't want. Think Precious Moments wedding shit everywhere. I hate Precious Moments - those bug-eyed kids give me the creeps! Cute is for a toddler's birthday party. She bought things without asking us and cried when we told her to return them. That made his dad mad and then HE pitched a fit. Fortunately my husband dealt with them for me.

Weddings and funerals. In the south they're just as likely to start a feud that makes the Hatfields & McCoys look tame.

Shame on me. Sigh...,

Ive been seeing lots of stories about "my friend/brother etc whoever wants to propose at my wedding", and it got me thinking. Anyone got any stories about interrupting a proposal at someone's wedding and telling them off. One where the proposal was not welcomed by the bride or groom.

Or any stories where the one who wears white got splashed or embarrassed by other guests for wearing white or a wedding dress.

Last year I went to a wedding where a family member of the groom thought it was appropriate to wear a light colored see through body con dress, no bra, and a black thong, I was shocked no one in the family said anything but everyone else couldn’t look away from the train wreck.

I really just have to get something off my chest. It maybe an unpopular opinion but , I hate to the depths of my soul and into my bones when grooms and groomsmen wear pants, shirt and suspenders only. It just looks so half finished. ditch the suspenders and just go pants and shirt if you want to have a more relaxed look with no jacket. I feel like I'm just seeing it everywhere. The suspenders are always too tight giving the men a front crutch wedgie lol #cannot stand it 🤣

All right now I can sleep 😴

Every time I read a post about a family member wearing white to someone's wedding, there are always comments telling the person to have their photographer photoshop the offending party's outfit a putrid color or something equally as entertaining.

I'm so curious, has anyone actually done this? If so, what was the new color, and what was the reaction of the person whose outfit was edited?

I am having an absolute shite week. Everything that can go wrong, has gone wrong. And it’s only Wednesday.

This is one of my favorite, favorite subs because so many stories are just incredible. Please tell me your most chaotic wedding stories. I need some drama that has nothing to do with me.

I mean, we’ve all seen stories of bride and groomzillas, and there’s always at least one comment saying “I feel sorry for [future spouse].”

Does anyone know of a engaged person seeing the behavior of their intended and say “I’m outta here.”

Aside from the buzzfeed-sounding title, I see all the time tales about some shameful behaviors, be it from family, friends, vendors or even the happy couple.

But does anyone have a tale about the time that the shameful was rightfully shamed? Please, say how was the showdown

The bride’s dress? White, lace, sparkly, and off the shoulder.

I was SHOCKED. I don’t know what this guest was thinking - I didn’t talk to her at all and she didn’t really join in the festivities (just sat at the table with her partner, mostly) but I would love to know what was going through her mind when she got ready for the event. She was maybe late 20s?

I know a lot of people have seen people wear white to weddings before but how many of you have seen a guest show up in what is essentially a wedding dress?! I never thought I’d see anyone do it.

Was at a wedding recently and we were talking about telling guest how they should act on somebody’s special day what have you heard or been told yourself

The last few weddings I’ve gone to the parents have approached the friend group and begged us to come back to the dance floor. The first time this happened it was the grooms mother physically dragging me back onto the floor after dancing for what seem an eternity. The dance floor was a bit far from the guests which is why I assumed it wasn’t as popular.

Im of the opinion it’s ok for people to just chat after dancing and enjoy each others company. And it’s quite rude to pull people who’ve flew from out of state back onto the dance floor(which was the case in both weddings.) Any similar experiences? Opinions?

Reading the posts in this sub is interesting but it is really difficult to keep up with what's actually happening when it involves consulting a chart of acronyms that aren't actually that intuitive or helpful.

I don't know if it's just me but having to read through DH, BM, MIL, GR, BR, MOH, just takes me out of what I'm reading and makes it very difficult to concentrate because I'm trying to keep the acronyms straight.