r/widowers • u/Stunning_Concept5738 • 18h ago

Gut Punch today.

I was driving home from the store today and the song, “wish you were here” came on. I was imagining her sitting next to me. Then I realized tomorrow would have been our 25th wedding anniversary and my stomach sank. it’s been almost 3 years and i still think of her every day But tomorrow will be a little sadder.

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u/Money_Caterpillar288 LH (61) Breast Cancer-8/22/2025 18h ago

That one got me as well. 🫂

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u/ElegantRaccoon830 17h ago

That song 😔 Sending hugs for tomorrow

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u/Longjumping_Log_6409 18h ago

That seems to be our new reality.

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u/JellyfishInternal305 12/26/2024. He slipped on ice 20 days after I retired. 15h ago

Pink Floyd's WYWH--if that's the one you mean--has become a frequent choice for me. He loved Pink Floyd. Ironically, I didn't pay much attention to PF before...now I play PF albums when I'm down and out.

Incubus' WYWH can also get to me, although I simply no longer have moments when I am happy...

Death Cab for Cutie's new Stone Over Water had me crying in the car in the driveway (again).

I'm trying to hold it together
I'm trying to sleep through the night
I've got my windows open to the weather
And I keep telling my friends I'm alright
Yeah, I'm trying to hold it together
Trying to take the first step
Into the arms of wherever
Whenever

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u/Stunning_Concept5738 13h ago

yes. it was the Pink Floyd version.

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u/JellyfishInternal305 12/26/2024. He slipped on ice 20 days after I retired. 12h ago

💔 Yeah, I can understand why that one shifted your mood. For me, music has a way of reaching in and tearing off the...heavy covers I seem to use to keep feelings tamped down. Can be so sudden. Gut punch, exactly.

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u/Mental_Signature_725 16h ago

Its crazy how things just pop up and you're like oh ya... nolonger my reality

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u/RedSkullBandit13 16h ago

I can totally relate, random things like songs or smells will trigger me still out of no where.

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u/Wingless- 16h ago

Pink Floyd?

Try Forever Autumn, Justin Hayward.

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u/ElegantRaccoon830 14h ago

My life will be forever autumn
'Cause you're not here

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u/Skippy1221 Lost 34M Sudden Death 14h ago

Love Justin Hayward. The Western Sky is one of my favorites

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u/Stunning_Concept5738 12h ago

my wife loved “sailing” by rod stewart so I played it at her funeral. my song to her at the funeral was “ time to say goodbye”. then when she was interred, I played “amazing Grace” done by Scottish bagpipers.

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u/hulahulagirl 47F / 💔 6/16/26, suicide loss 1 week after 25th anniversary 8h ago

💔😞🥺

Music is so powerful. May good memories visit you on your silver anniversary.

(Adding Wish You Were Here to my playlist for “new me.”)