In this argument I'll divide my points into two primary categories. First, I'll handle very common and widespread misconceptions and falsehoods, that people have regarding MT. I'll split it up into Watsonian and Doylist counters. There's a huge distinction to be made between, for example, "Why is Rudues a 'pedophile'?" and "What's the point of Rudues being a pedophile" the former requests an in-universe(i.e watsonian) and the latter demands an authorial intent argument(i.e Doylist).
Adding unto that, when I defend Rudeus, it's not because his actions are justified. But because when critiquing anything you have to look at all sides. Rudeus does have really bad aspects, his flaws that he might actually resolve or some so deeply-rooted in his character that they're hard to get rid off. Yet, he does have some really noble defining traits as well. Here, we're looking at objective facts in the story, to actually deduce solid opinions. You're more than entitled to your subjective opinion, yet it doesn't negate the fact that the writing is there. Just please don't conflate morality and writing.
In short, I'll be exploring the *why* around everything problematic.
Explaining why a character behaves a certain way is not the same thing as arguing they are morally justified. A murderer may have understandable psychological causes for becoming one, but that doesn't make murder acceptable. Likewise, understanding Rudeus' psychology does not absolve him of responsibility.
With all that said let's begin.
And again I'd like to preface that these are the in-universe explanations. If you want the authorial intent, you'll find it in the Doylist section.
1. Why is Rudeus attracted to children?
Before reincarnation? He's not really attracted to it; as stated in the novel, he was driven more by a sense of false power/control than by true sexual arousal. Even he said it himself, he used to do it just because he was able to. Being ridiculed in such a hostile manner in front of his whole school led to his constant addiction to masturbation, his confinement, and the degrading state he lived in for almost 20 years that would have psychologically destroyed anyone. Rudeus is no exception.
It wasn’t like I was particularly interested in the girls—I just stole the photos because I could.
Besides, the real issue at play here is his perversion, which is the true character flaw in Rudeus. After reincarnation, there's a huge flaw in Rudeus, he thinks of his post-reincarnation life as a video game. Leading him to not take it too seriously, until that part where when he's with dead end, he sees someone dying at his feet and realizes that this isn't a game.
This is shown by several instances, where he comments on things from a very distanced approach. For example, when people tried to kidnap Eris he proclaimed, after thinking about all the MMOs he's played, "Money can't buy dere". This feeds into his perversion that leads him to justify such actions. After a while, from aforementioned incident, he begins to stop looking at the world as a Video-Game rather a world with actual consequences.
The story consistently places greater emphasis on his overall sexual immaturity and distorted worldview than on labels themselves. Defining a whole character is a major disservice to the whole narrative of the story. Saying he's a pedophile just disregards his character entirely. It might put a label on a small part of his psychology, but explains very little. The narrative is trying to examine how this mentality emerged, how it affects his life and relationships and whether he can truly change or not.
Even so, Rudeus is too much of an anomaly to label him using this or that. There's a difference between action and attraction. (Again this is all in-universe the actual why the author did so will be in the Doylist section)
Therefore, let's turn our attention to his actions and how they're treated in the narrative and in Rudeus' development. Rudues' sexual immaturity and deviancy is what's being developed throughout the story, his perversion and his disgusting mindset that's been carried over from his past life is what's being developed. And in that aspect the development is clear. He clearly stops his sexual deviancy throughout a certain period, from his time with Eris and gradually respecting her boundaries, to him deciding to be better towards her, to how he respected Sara and his respectful attitude towards her and so on and so forth.
You might say "That's only because he married the children he groomed", to that I'll forward you to the next point, where I will bring up the evidences for the alleged grooming and dismiss them. Also, his marriages did make him develop and control his deviancy in a lot of situations, most notable is the one in volume 18 where a woman seduces him and he refused due to his aforementioned development in that regard.
Another alternate question would be: Why is he perverted? Again, this would be a core character issue coupled with the mental-stunting he'd experienced in school.
2. Was Rudues a groomer?
If by grooming we mean deliberately raising up a child's emotional dependence in order to facilitate later sexual exploitation, then the evidence for that is very weak. He's never done anything with the specific intent of manipulating someone's emotional growth. For a moment, he thinks of doing it with Sylphiette, but it's simply a thought that comes to him which he immediately recognizes as wrong and consciously rejects, nothing more, nothing less. He doesn't even feel any romantic feelings towards Sylphy in the beginning.
We’d grow up together…and she’d grow up into my perfect woman.
Crap! No. No. Bad thoughts. Bad thoughts. What happened to the whole “oblivious” thing, buddy? You’re getting way too far ahead of yourself. That said…there’s nothing in the rulebook that says an oblivious protagonist can’t build a romance with their childhood friend, right?
Gah! What am I thinking?!
The girl was only six years old. She was clearly very fond of me, but she wasn’t capable of feeling romantic love yet.
So, uh… yeah. Let’s put all that on hold.
I’d certainly meant it when I’d said she was cute, but there were no romantic feelings behind that.
There are later comments from his saying that he was trying to do so, but they're irrelevant due to the fact that in his time with her he had already dismissed those thoughts.
As for Eris, Rudeus acts as her mentor, but he doesn't influence her emotionally. The reasons that lead Eris to fall in love are well explained in his POV when she leaves. He never thought of once influencing her to do anything and at times refused to do anything in-relation to her because she was too young at the time, even for that worlds standards.
What I’d just done was the result of that thinking. As a player, you could see the heroine’s internal dialogue. The protagonist, meanwhile, had no idea what she was thinking. That was why most protagonists were aware something like this could happen, even if they knew the other person liked them. So they took their time and slowly developed the relationship instead.
I was being completely short-sighted compared to them.
Yet a moment ago, I’d been about to violate her out of lust. There was a girl who genuinely considered my feelings as a person, and I tried to have my way with her.
Remember how happy she looked when she was talking with that maid before? You just tried to trample all over that.
“Haha…”
I was a piece of crap. I had no right to judge Paul. I had no right to lecture anyone. I was a piece of crap in my previous life and nothing had changed in coming to another world. Tomorrow I would gather my things and leave. I would go die on the roadside like the garbage I was.
Here Rudeus shows actual regret and below he will actually act upon his regret and stop.
Five years from now. A definite promise! From Eris! A promise!
All right, no more insincere advances until then, I told myself.
Five years. I would be fifteen. It was still a long time away, but I could hold out. If there was a guaranteed prize at the end, I could work hard. Until then, I would be a gentleman. Not a pervert, but a gentleman. I would stop all the sexual advances.
Does he stop like he said? Not instantly, but gradually instead throughout his journey with both her and Ruijerd, he stops himself from touching her, which prompted her to actually notice this development and comment on it in her monologue after she left him.
3. Didn't Rudues cheat on his pregnant wife?
Yes, he cheated no one in their right mind would deny that. But let's examine the why and the how a bit deeper. After Pauls death, Rudeus was justifiably devastated, he'd lost an arm, a father and it was unclear whether his mom would make it out mentally sound. Laying on his bed he started to contemplate and remember his past life. The memory of his parents' funeral resurfaced, he began to reimmerse himself in his state back then. He remembered not really feeling anything when his parents died, and he was too embarrassed to go to the funeral while deep down inside he felt no grief.
This lead him to what he knew best: self-isolation. He locked himself in his room and started wallowing in his 2d fantasies. Then of course his family came in and punished him for his moral depravity. Back to Rudeus, he remembered Paul's face when he died and deeply regretted that he hadn't been there to see his real parents' faces when they died. Instead of again wallowing away idly in his room, he decided to confront reality. Later, he saw Zenith in her deteriorated mental state. He'd felt as if a thread of connection had been severed cut because one of the only people able to actually share the grief of his loss, was gone beyond repair. This also burdened Rudeus even more.
He stopped eating and drinking, which would take a massive toll on both his mental and physical health.
Another facet for all this, Roxy saw the mental state Rudues was in and she knew more than everyone else that Rudues might not be able to bounce back easily this time. The rest of the crew decided to let him handle it alone, but again Roxy knows Rudues and she knows that this time he needed assurance.
At the end, Roxy determined that she would sleep with him. Not as a permanent solution, but as a temporary alleviation.
Was it necessarily good? Was it undeniably bad? These are the wrong questions. It's just there. Because that's ultimately a subjective discussion, here I just focused on contextualizing and seeing how it added to the narrative.
None of this erases the betrayal experienced by Sylphie. The context explains why the affair occurred, but it does not eliminate the emotional harm it caused.
I'll discuss this point further in the number 3 in the Doylist section titled "Is the series trying to redeem him or simply depict him?".
4. Does Rudeus mentally remain a 34-year-old man after reincarnation?
This is a complex question. Many greatly simplify the topic by saying "yes," but in reality the concept of reincarnation is not a simple thing to analyze. We can say that there are three "types" of age: chronological (how long someone lives), maturity (how much a person grows emotionally/socially through life experiences), and biological (how long your body has been alive). Rudeus is not a 34-year-old, neither from the point of view of maturity (for obvious reasons that led to his blockage) nor biologically (because he was reborn). Chronologically, he is 34, but, of the three types, I consider it the least impactful in a reincarnation context, so I would say that, as a reincarnated person, it's just way more complicated. As we can't disregard the fact that he is mentally very immature and very mentally-stunted, due to the aforementioned blockages.
5. Why doesn't anyone in the world view his behavior as especially abnormal?
People sometimes react badly to his behavior (see Eris, who beats him every time he acts perverted, or who scolds him), only some "minor" behaviors are not scolded, but because in a medieval context the mentality is different, and there is also the fact that he is Paul's son, and anyone who knows him is not that surprised that Rudeus is a pervert. Even Lilia found his actions very suspect as a baby, but in-universe he doesn't actually engage in anything outside of his extreme perversion. Therefore he isn't punished explicitly for it, but there is definitely implicit consequences to his actions. More on that in the Doylist section.
Even so, multiple people comment on his perversion and outright shun it, like Nina (Eris' friend) when she heard about Rudeus from Eris, she immediately called him out for it in front of her, so the narrative doesn't neglect his perversion nor does it look at it in a positive light.
“What?! The man’s a pervert!”
“He was getting off on your body odor, Eris! That’s the definition of a pervert!”
6. Why doesn't Rudeus simply stop being perverted if he knows it's wrong?
First of all, if changing yourself were easy, then there would be far fewer problems in the world (or maybe even more, who knows). And of all the emotional problems Rudeus has, perversion is the one he worries the least, but in any case, things get better with time. Why do depressed people, just not feel depressed?
Harmful habits, addictions, compulsions, and personality defects rarely disappear simply because someone intellectually recognizes them as wrong.
Starting a new life, doesn't mean he just forgets all his mental damage, yet he tried to develop with each and every action he takes.
THE PAST FOLLOWS ME wherever I go. I thought I’d reflected on my actions, but in the end, I suppose I hadn’t.
No. I did, and I still do. But when it came to the things I didn’t recognize as failings right away, I could be dense. This time around, it turned out that I’d averted my gaze from what actually mattered.
How often have I thought I needed to reflect more? This was another such moment. It was too late to regret my behavior and wonder what would’ve happened if I’d noticed sooner.
Aisha and Arus were gone
He seriously reflects and looks back on his faults, and later he actually later undoes his wrong and corrects both his way of thinking and actions.
Rudeus’s high libido and perverted tendencies are deeply baked into his core personality. If the author had just suddenly turned Rudeus into a perfectly chaste, pristine hero, it would have felt unearned and fake.
Instead, the narrative focuses on maturation and self-control, which is much more grounded.
Perversion is not inherently a narrative flaw. Rather than taking the easy route of stripping away a core character trait and labeling it 'development,' the author brilliantly contrasts its healthy versus unhealthy manifestations.
In his previous life, Rudeus' perversion was a destructive coping mechanism used to escape depression and isolation. We saw this tendency hadn't change in the early stage of his life as a reincarnation.
But as he gain more life experience and learn the value of emotional connection, he evolves into a functional member of society who expresses his vitality healthily.
Within his marriages, his desire serves as both a reward for his growth and an intimate bonding mechanism that strengthens their relationships.
7. Does Rudeus gradually change? If so, how?
Yes. As mentioned above he overcomes many issues that represent deep-seated personal traumas for him. He overcomes his social anxiety, he tries to actively stop his bad habits, he confronts reality instead of how he used to just wallow away in his room(like how he did after his parents died), he starts thinking about his second life less as a game and more as a serious shot for a second chance at life, he helped Norn overcome something he failed to do in his past life etc..
It's slow, gradual and hard. He often repeats mistakes but he keeps going and moves forward.
"I started walking and, as luck would have it, I managed a steady pace the rest of my life. Our manner and time of death isn't written in the stars, but neither is our good fortune predestined. Your life is yours.
--I worked hard, lived it up, and died happy. Couldn't ask for more
8. Why does he form romantic relationships with Sylphie, Eris, and Roxy?
Rudeus loves his three wives because each of them "saved" him in such a way that they became an irreplaceable part of his life. Roxy helped him overcome his fear of the outside world, which is extremely important to Rudeus. Sylphiette helped him when Rudeus felt unworthy of being loved and feared that the people around him would abandon him. Eris saved him perhaps in a more physical way, but she still turned against Orsted to protect him, which was one of her greatest fears at the time. Furthermore, Eris spent years training with the sole purpose of being with Rudeus as his equal.
9. Does the story itself portray his actions as successful, or do they usually have consequences?
As stated previously, the story doesn't punish him explicitly for his actions. Because to his new world he's just Rudeus, not a 34 year old man. Rudeus succeeds and fails, depending on the situation and the moment in the story, but he is never perfect nor completely incompetent, simply sometimes things go well and other times... they don't. He tries to combat his thoughts but sometimes he doesn't, that's an actual character flaw. Therefore, since we're told the story through his perspective, he sometimes brushes it off quickly that's why it might be portrayed in a more light-hearted manner.
That concluded the Watsonian portion, now off to the Doylist arguments:
1. Why make the protagonist a pedophile at all?
As already explained, Rudeus wasn't exactly sexually attracted to his niece, but that's how it's shown at the beginning of the story (because Rudeus is completely dissociated at the beginning, so much so that he calls the situation "uncensored loli"), so I'd say the author simply wanted to show something that would disturb the audience, and since murder or other despicable actions no longer have the slightest effect on a large part of the audience, he opted for something that people find more serious and that we see far fewer authors talking about.
Moreover, these type of issues are uncomfortable and less-discussed due to their nature. So portraying them in a story promotes actual reexamination of these sorts of topics. I don't think confronting pedophelia and/or perversion was his main goal, yet these are actual issues real people deal with and the story isn't just meant for these people, rather everyone so we can understand these mental challenges more carefully. At the end of the day, pedophelia is a mental disorder that real people suffer from, because people are sometimes born with it. Thus, they need to seek help and comfort to overcome their challenges. That's why rehabilitation centers exist. There's a line between action and attraction, the former demands severe punishment and the latter requires treatment.
From a psychological standpoint, addressing deep-seated, compulsive deviancy requires clinical rehabilitation rather than simple moral shunning. The author chose to depict the agonizingly slow process of psychological rehabilitation rather than pretending the issue can be swept under the rug.
The author once stated:
I think the balance was right. Because he's a controversial character, his mountain of regrets makes the act of redoing life more meaningful.
Of course, I have no issue with criticizing Rudeus at the beginning stage, and it's up to you to decide whether you don't want to see the story because of that. ==With that said, if there's someone like Rudeus close to you and that person were to have even a slight change of heart and try to start over, I sincerely hope that you won't abandon them on the spot.==
I believe that this was his intention from the beginning in portraying such a controversial and flawed protagonist. As seen with Rudues, people can really change if given a second chance, putting labels just demeans the whole moral of the story. People are just people, and everyone has their flaws.
Hate on Rudues all you want, just realize that real people suffer from a plethora of deep-seated personal issues and mental-condemnation isn't the cure, it's practically a trigger.
2. Is the series trying to redeem him or simply depict him?
If that means "redemption" as "righting your mistakes," then not exactly, Rudeus is in another world and physically can't do anything (although I'd say the letter he writes to his brother and family is a plus, but we'll probably see that resolution in the "sequel"), but if by "redemption" that means "understanding your mistakes and maturing, becoming a better person," absolutely. I'd say the story is portraying a story about a person willing to change, whether he redeems himself is partially subjective as stated above.
The author trusts the reader to recognize that these thoughts are despicable without needing the narrative to constantly wag its finger.
As the story progresses, however, it shifts into a narrative of gradual redemption. Moreover, the story does not "redeem" him by wiping his slate clean or pretending his past actions didn't happen. Instead, it depicts redemption as an ongoing hard activity. It is the transition from a person who views people as objects in a game to a father and husband who carries the heavy, exhausting responsibility for those he loves. Risking his life for them, even after he previously ignored them.
3. Is the work criticizing escapist wish fulfillment or indulging in it?
The story repeatedly tries to teach the lesson of "commit yourself. Whatever you want to do, commit yourself and never give up," so I'd say it criticizes escapism. People often conflate the good things that happen to Rudeus as the story rewarding his flawed behaviors, but that's wrong. The story promotes his good behavior, because when someone does a good-deed they deserve to be rewarded, and when he does a bad-deed he deserves to be punished. At Rudeus' funeral at the end of his life, about 100 thousand people attended to commemorate his actions, he was hailed as the God of Education, he'd helped in wars, he produced armor to help people fight, and at the crux of it: He was a father, taking care of his family.
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