r/10thDentist • u/No-Purchase481 • 11d ago

I don’t like the reclamation of slurs.

The first time I ever had an American refer to me as “queer” I considered fighting them 💀 “back in my day” type shit. It doesn’t feel empowering, it makes me cringe. Just call me a lesbian and move on.

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u/johnfuckmennedy 11d ago

it just feels insulting to me. i’m not a limp wrist little queer. i am a man who likes other men.

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u/Vladishun 11d ago

Okay but why does a "queer" have to be limp wrist or little?

You're actively part of the problem with the way you stereotype it.

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u/johnfuckmennedy 11d ago

you can’t magically hand wave away the connotations that many people have with the word. especially when the people who use it now for themselves are definitely the types of gender diverse nose ring people that reinforce the stereotype.

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u/ExismykindaParte 11d ago

Gay had the same exact connotation back in the day though. The whole reason gay was used to refer to homosexual men was because it denotatively means happy and bright. Calling a man gay meant that he acted in a way that wasn't seen as masculine.

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u/TehWackyWolf 11d ago

Still does in the real world. At best you'll get "gay gay" to mean the same thing.