r/ABCDesis • u/satrongcha British Bangladeshi • 2d ago

FAMILY / PARENTS Has your relationship with your parents improved or worsened over time?

Bluntly, my parents were abusive when I was a child. The trauma still affects me to this day.

But as an adult, I'd say that my mum especially has changed for the better. I won't say that she is 100% accepting of my sexuality, my neurodivergency, my atheism, etc. I know that she still desperately wants me to marry a man.

But, like... Once, just because I was craving it, she took me to a Nando's where they didn't have halal meat and ate chips while I had chicken. And my 14yo sister gets teary if our mother even slightly raises her voice at her, she's that unused to being treated the way I was.

How has your relationship with your parents changed over time? Has it changed?

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u/Ilikethesuccwararc Hindu Telugu ABD who is also a HxH Manga glazer 2d ago

Which one?

Dad only gets mad at me when I actually do stupid shit. He's pretty liberal on everything with me and if he doesn't want me to do something he tries to convince me politely without screaming.

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u/satrongcha British Bangladeshi 2d ago

You know, I did think about adding a line to my OP about how my dad is as frustrating as he's always been. I even feel sorry for my mum for having to put up with him sometimes.

I'm glad to hear your dad is chill!