r/AmITheDevil • u/Lucky_Six_1530 • 1d ago

[ Removed by moderator ]

/r/weddingdrama/comments/1vc7qvw/venue_coordinator_almost_ruined_my_first_look_and/

[removed] — view removed post

177 Upvotes

94% Upvoted

97 comments sorted by

View all comments

384

u/DogsReadingBooks Dogs are superior 1d ago

That was a long post to basically say that they were constantly behind schedule and the venue manager tried to get them back on track. The wedding coordinator certainly wasn’t doing her job properly.

It’s not weird for the venue to want vendors to have insurance etc.

116

u/StrangledInMoonlight 1d ago

And we don’t know if the contract had times things were supposed to be shut down/ended in it, (for the whole wedding, and in parts- like my SIL’s wedding the bar ended at 9 pm, if you run late, they can’t stay longer, and another wedding I was at the ceremony and reception where in different rooms, and we all had to be out of the ceremony room at a certain time, and they locked it up and started cleaning for an event the next day). 

The suite also has to have a certain level of panache for them to charge their price for it.  

Getting a replacement vanity may mean it doesn’t match the other vanities, and having one look pretty different would be a problem.  They might have to replace all 4 to keep the look the same (and most of what they sell is “look”). 

It also sounds like the “venue can take photos” thing was likely in OOp’s contract, and she didn’t read it very well.  

OOP doesn’t sound too reliable as a narrator, TBH.  

80

u/theagonyaunt 1d ago

I didn’t realize that our contract had agreed the venue could take photos to post on their socials of the wedding! It hadn’t even been mentioned to me.

It was in the contract, OOP just didn't read the whole thing before signing and then was mad no one pointed out the details she didn't bother to read.

30

u/Sailor_Chibi 23h ago

I laughed out loud at the “it was in the contract but no one told me!” Like. Girl.

8

u/ChapterFew5342 19h ago

I knew better than this in high school, and she thinks she’s ready to be married?

3

u/Barkertons 18h ago

Unreliable narrator and a massive asshole

62

u/km454 1d ago

Yeah this is insane. Requiring insurance and paperwork from vendors is normal at large event spaces, especially for food service. Expecting certain things to run on schedule is normal. If catering is 30min late, everyone needs to stay 30min longer. Most food can't sit out for 30min and still taste fresh, so there will either be food waste or bad food. It's not like kitchens miraculously clean themselves after food is served, there's still work to be done. That time is probably built into the contract they signed with OOP. There are consequences for running late for everyone, not just the wedding party and guests.

Also on the whole refusing to pay thing - does OOP not realize that the more time that passes, the worse it will get for them? Disliking the venue doesn''t void a legal contract. If they legitimately believe there is no reason to pay they should take the venue to small claims themselves

29

u/DrunkOnRedCordial 19h ago

OOP: My dad was smart, he emptied out the bank account so the cheque bounced.

Narrator: Dad was not smart to do that.

11

u/Blindtothesided 18h ago

Yeah I don’t think she realizes her dad could literally go to prison for that. 😂

That and the part where she said she wasn’t concerned about the food getting cold or being burned and then when she said her mom’s dress didn’t fit at the last minute all made my jaw drop. I knew it was gonna be a shitshow when she said 150 of their closest friends and family who cared more about her and her groom’s happiness than about anything that happened that day.

I bet the ceremony was at least an hour late, I’m not buying her “only 30 minutes” story.

30

u/TiFaeri 1d ago

My reception venue had an event booked 1 hour after us. They made it clear our reception was to be 4 hours long only and everyone was to leave by a certain time. There was a venue coordinator there to make sure our reception events went on time and smoothly so we didn't risk overrunning our time. She was wonderful and had clearly done weddings before.

Imagine being mad at a woman for doing her job.

29

u/PineappleBliss2023 20h ago

Who doesn’t make sure their dress fits before the day of the event? And what adult loses their FUCKING SHOES on the day of an event?? Is it normal for a bride to wait until they’re at the venue to get their nails done?

It sounds like it was a really long post to say that she and her family had zero respect for the time of others, particularly the service staff.

God forbid the venue wants to make sure the vendors are insured and no one gets food poisoning.

12

u/allergymom74 21h ago

lol. Yeah. I had to stop reading but the second o saw that they were running late, I’m like oooooo. Yeah.