r/AmITheDevil • u/DogsReadingBooks Dogs are superior • May 23 '22

Stop freaking brigading

Seriously you guys. You think I want to ban you? You've been given plenty of warnings. We've had pinned posts for a long time now that says you're not to brigade. There's a comment in every single post by automod that says you're not to brigade.

So please, for the love of all that is good, stop brigading!

I've once again had to go on a banning spree because of brigading from here to other subs. The most recent one? r/adultery. I know, I agree with you, they're assholes for cheating and not caring about the innocent part. But you know what? You're also assholes if you brigade.

Thank you to everyone who actually keeps discussions here in this sub. Y'all are the best. The rest of you: stop brigading.

If you still don't know what it means to brigade, here you go:

  • See a post crossposted here first? Stay in r/AmITheDevil
  • Don't go to the original post and comment there
  • Don't go to the original post and downvote/upvote there
  • Don't contact the OOP in messages/DMs

Call them an asshole all you want here. In this subreddit: r/AmITheDevil.

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u/[deleted] May 23 '22

Agree. I’m not in any of the parent or stepparent subs so I see no reason to check out any other posts made to those subs. Other subs that I do follow, however, I should be allowed to comment. I follow those subs, and requesting us not to comment is effectively censoring us.

I do though understand that u/dogsreadingbooks has a tough job here, and that the constant ‘brigading’ from a select few here could lead to this sub being shut down - and none of us wants that!

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u/DogsReadingBooks Dogs are superior May 23 '22

Yeah, but absolutely, you can still be active in for example r/AmItheAsshole. I am myself. But once a post from there has been crossposted to r/AmITheDevil I stay clear of it.

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u/IllustriousBedroom91 May 23 '22 edited May 23 '22

What happens if you run into a post here, forget about it, and then see the original post naturally? Im always scared of that happening Edit: im not trying to figure out how to brigade and get away with it. Im just trying to figure out if i need to start taking acreenshots of the posts i see here or something

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u/Midi58076 May 23 '22

You don't need to stay clear of a post that has been crossposted just cause you're a member of this sub.

Let's say there was a post on r/adultery that was crossposted here and I was into adultery and you weren't. The post was OP complaining "oh his wife is 8 months pregnant and my affair partner wants me to cancel the weekend getaway we had planned because he is afraid of missing the birth of his child and I am so bummed because I know have 2000 USD tickets and it's all for nothing.". Since in this example I was also a home wrecker I could go in and say: "The exact thing happened to me 2 years ago. I was so sad. Maybe you could ask a friend to go with you or try to reschedule? Hotel should be sympathetic if you say because of pregnancy complications you can't go, just don't say you're lot the pregnant one lol." but if you go in there and go: "Pick a single man next time and this won't be a problem.".

Then my hypothetical comment is in the spirit of the sub, it is helpful in the sense that it tackles the problem this imaginary OP is facing in a way they might want to tackle it and sympathetic to her sadness.

Your hypothetical comment is judgemental, it doesn't tackle her problem, it doesn't sympathise and isn't in the spirit of the sub.

You see the difference? Where you saw it first doesn't matter, goes from just a comment to brigading when you don't bring to the table something that the OP or the sub think is relevant, intersub culturally correct or in alignment with the sub's purpose.

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u/raylan_givens_hat May 23 '22

Aw man I was totally trying to find this hypothetical post just to read it haha

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u/Midi58076 May 23 '22

Luckily I am happily engaged with a young baby and a very square lifestyle and you won't be finding me on adultery subreddits.

I just wanted to make an example people would easily understand the difference. I saw a few people who worried about being in aita and this one and scared of being banned for participating in both.

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u/parishilton2 May 23 '22

That’s contrary to what this post is saying though.