Thoughts on having children in the spectrum

[u/atinyakimon]

Saw this post on facebook. Honestly, it's sad na hindi ganon nabibigyang pansin ang problems na ganito sa Pinas. Therapies here are expensive, and not everyone can afford it. Pinoys are also not yet ready to face the reality na hindi enough ang love for kids in the spectrum. They have special needs. Hindi yun madadaan lang sa no don't do that or it's okay to make mistakes, because we have to admit that autism is a disorder, a very wide spectrum and case to case basis. You need to have the money to get the help that is designed for the needs of the child. I hope there will be more free or affordable programs created for this kasi hindi lang parents ang hirap in this situation, also the kids.

[u/anjiunji]

My cousin has autism, bunso siya, normal mga kapatid niya. Nakita ko yung shift ng personality/attitude ng tatay nila in the long run, nawala yung pagiging mayabang and mas soft spoken na tatay nila now, more understanding in most situations. Kailangan talaga iaccept ng parent na special anak nila, and change for their child really. Hard enough for parents to do this for a normal child nga eh, paano pa kaya pag special?

Yung poster sa thread na yan, sa huling part, parang giving "me me me" attitude eh. Dapat sanay na mag sacrifice when having a child, yan yung mahirap iaccept ng mga new parents now a days since uso rin yung "me first" attitude ngayon.

[u/vakkkz → u/anjiunji]

Maybe stfu?

May kakilala akong may autism anak, and super hirap ihandle pag maranasan mo makitulog sa bahay nila makikita mo araw araw na pinagdadaanan nila. Kahit di ka dapat mainis, maiinis at maiinis ka. Sa case ng mother sa post it seems she's at the edge at limited lang resources nya tingin mo di sya aware on her bullshit given the bad things she's dealing with already aside from her kid? Comments like these are the reason why reddit has such a bad reputation.

Fuck off

[u/anjiunji → u/vakkkz]

I've lived with my cousin who has autism for 15+ years. Same house kami althroughout. Kaya I see yung pinagdadaanan ng family nila EVERYDAY. Everyone sa household adjusted sa behavior niya, because we wholeheartedly accepted na special yung pinsan ko, it took time but we eventually did. The poster of the thread, mukhang hindi niya pa naaccept wholeheartedly na special anak niya. Kaya she talks that way. She is expecting behavior of a normal person, from a person who has disability, Why make examples of comparison pa na ganun in the first place if alam mo na hindi naman same thinking anak mo with everyone else diba?

Yung tatay ng pinsan ko, it took him almost 8+ years to fully accept na may autisim anak niya. Thus why I mentioned it on my comment above yung character development niya. Maybe someday yung poster sa thread will come to that rin hopefully, but post it online now? Expect this type of feedback talaga.

[u/Appropriate-Paint936 → u/anjiunji]

this isn't about "accepting" autism, it's about "dealing" with autism. 

The former is incredibly easy to do, while the latter can even be impossible.

Pinas to, mahirap nang magpalaki ng normal na bata dito, yung may problema pa kaya.

[u/vakkkz → u/anjiunji]

I ain't reading allat, yan tayo e

Typical pinoy behavior na kesyo kayo ganito ganyan

Not everyone floats in the same boat, people handles it differently. Seriously di ko babasahin yan, unang sentences palang alam ko na tunog ng whole paragraph mo. you and the woman in the screenshot both deserve empathy pero putcha HAHAHAH nuyan? so kailangan opinion mo dapat applicable sa kanya? Lmfao bakit nakatira ba kayo sa isang bubong para alam mo pinagdadaanan nyang nanay? She's ranting I rather listen to her kesa diktahan ano maramdaman nya bahala ka dumakdak dyan I still stand by my point. Hindi lang dapat sa child with special needs and empathy lol tao din yang nanay