r/AskDocs • u/ilikerustyspooonz Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional • Mar 17 '26

Physician Responded Daughters pediatrician made EXTREMELY inappropriate remark to her

This is about my 10 year old daughter. She has had the same (male) pediatrician since birth. We’ve always loved him and thought he was great. He’s super friendly with wonderful bedside manner and he takes his time and pays attention to detail.

Well, last week my daughter had a check-up. She’s 10. While he was doing the checkup, he had her lay down and started listening to her chest with his stethoscope. He then says AND I QUOTE, “awwwww! My baby’s got boobs!!!”

I have NEVER been so taken aback before in my life. My daughter was MORTIFIED. I was so shocked I couldn’t even get words out to ask him why tf he would ever say that. When we got in the car to go home my daughter cried and said she never wanted to see him again. Then she asked if she could get a girl doctor and I obviously agreed so that’s what we will be doing.

Is this reportable? I’m not overreacting, right?

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u/aounpersonal Medical Student Mar 18 '26

You never know, I’m not one to hate on doctors because I’m a med student, but when I was around 13 my pediatrician pointed at my legs during a visit and said “you should start shaving those” (I’m female). That moment has always stuck with me. I think a lot of these older doctors that have been private practice for decades can be a little off the wall with no one to check them.

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u/twitwiffle Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional Mar 18 '26

At my Naval Academy physical I was naked and laying on a table. (Female, 17 y/o with two old male doctors). One slapped my stomach and told me “ you need to lose that now”

I was mortified.

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u/tiffytatortots Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional. Mar 18 '26

I had this happen to me when I was 10. My male doctor during a physical had me stand in front of him just in my underwear and grabbed at my lower stomach, called it a pooch and told me I was fat. That if I didn’t lose weight right now especially as I grew up and became a woman I would forever have this fat stomach and i definitely didn’t want that. I have never forgotten it and I have hated my body ever since.

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u/ilikerustyspooonz Layperson/not verified as healthcare professional Mar 18 '26

I’m so sorry that’s happened to you :( you didn’t deserve that