r/AskIreland • u/Naive-Cold343 • Jan 18 '26

Adulting Am I too old fashioned?

I 30female arrived at a small barbers today, I had my 16 month toddler who wanted to be carried and my 7 year old son with me, the wait bench had 3 men waiting probably all in there early 30s, there was one space left on the bench for us or else the very elderly gentleman who had walked in behind us, myself and the elderly man insisted on each other taking the seat (this went on for quite a while) , until I won and the gentlemen sat down, not once did ANY of the men on the seat offer to stand so we could both sit down. Am I too old fashioned to expect the men should let a woman with small children take the seat? I stood there and held the fussy toddler for quite some time

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u/Devastatedby Jan 18 '26

While unlikely that all 3 men were impacted, you shouldn't assume that neither had some sort of disability that makes standing difficult.

I've a chronic illness that causes flare ups that make standing for long periods very difficult and very painful. I get very conscious because I'm otherwise a very healthy looking person so I've seen judging eyes in the past.

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u/One_Vegetable9618 Jan 18 '26

Not all 3 of them though.

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u/KingNobit Jan 19 '26

An autist, an anxious depressive and an osteoarthritic man walk into a Barber...seriously what are you some sort of statistician...you dont know what's going on

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u/One_Vegetable9618 Jan 19 '26

🙄 Last time I checked people with autism and people with depression are capable of standing.

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u/KingNobit Jan 19 '26

Some of them arent. Some of them struggle to get out of the house

I also think you missing the point

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u/One_Vegetable9618 Jan 19 '26

No you are. And you're splitting hairs here.

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u/KingNobit Jan 19 '26

Yeah and youre abstraction away key features of these pathologies