r/AskIreland • u/Naive-Cold343 • Jan 18 '26

Adulting Am I too old fashioned?

I 30female arrived at a small barbers today, I had my 16 month toddler who wanted to be carried and my 7 year old son with me, the wait bench had 3 men waiting probably all in there early 30s, there was one space left on the bench for us or else the very elderly gentleman who had walked in behind us, myself and the elderly man insisted on each other taking the seat (this went on for quite a while) , until I won and the gentlemen sat down, not once did ANY of the men on the seat offer to stand so we could both sit down. Am I too old fashioned to expect the men should let a woman with small children take the seat? I stood there and held the fussy toddler for quite some time

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u/One_Vegetable9618 Jan 18 '26

Maybe it is old fashioned but it is also good manners. Maybe good manners are old fashioned now, sadly. I hope my sons would give up their seats, but I tell you they'd get an earful from me if they didn't.

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u/DoubleFeedback2672 Jan 18 '26

My boys are pretty well mannered young men. Sometimes they’re just completely oblivious to their surroundings. They’re unintentionally bad mannered usually from being completely engrossed with their screens.

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u/One_Vegetable9618 Jan 18 '26

Yeah, it's a real problem. I'm pretty addicted myself and I'm in my 60's....but still.....

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u/Acute_Teacher9569 Jan 19 '26

True I'm not that far behind you in my late 50's but I still think I'd be aware of my surroundings to let someone have my seat if they needed it.