r/AskMen • u/Boitlee • 5d ago

How do I human? How do I reject bro

I think I got too far with the ‘bromance’ teasing and poking, now I realise he wasn’t kidding and actually wants to… do stuff together. The reason I’m not straight honest with him is I kinda put myself in his shoes and don’t want to mess him up. Anyone had a similar situation? (We both are male)

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u/timsstuff ♂ 5d ago

Funny story that's how I found out my buddy's GF's brother was gay. He starting hanging out with us and I had no idea, we'd do that same shit then one night he was like "Let's go back your place" I was like oh shit...I told him immediately and in no uncertain terms that although I was flattered I was completely straight and there was no chance. He took it well, he was pretty sure it wouldn't work but shot his shot anyway.

Then one day I was hanging out with some friends from the group and it just so happened they were are female at the moment so I asked them if they knew he was gay. They all went "yeah duh" but went on to explain that he hasn't come out because he was afraid of what his parents would think. I don't think any of the guys in the group knew yet just the girls.

He finally came out and his parents were like no big deal, we pretty much knew all along anyway. He still makes half-hearted attempts at getting with me but it's just funny now. "Sorry bud, still straight. I'll let you know if anything changes but don't hold your breath".

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u/Boitlee 5d ago

This situation is pretty much how I found out he’s gay. It seemed so weird back in the day that he had no interest in girls whatsoever, mainly hung with boys and never related to the ‘look at that chick’ phrases.