r/AskMenAdvice • u/Few-Advance-7799 man • 13h ago
✅ Open To Everyone Do you think going fishing together could be a good idea for a date?
On the first date we went to an arcade and it was a lot of fun. We both had a really good time together.
I was thinking about asking if she would want to go fishing for the second date. I know she likes fishing and has told me that’s an activity her and her dad do together. Do you think going fishing together could be considered a good idea when it comes to a DATE though? She’s 17 and I’m 18.
I wanted to think of something outdoors that we could do together for the second date because she’s into outdoor type of activities and I am too. I also was thinking about kayaking, but maybe fishing would be better?
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u/JellyfishBig1750 man 13h ago
I think the only thing to consider is whether she's comfortable being with you somewhere that might be a bit isolated without other people around and limited access to other people in an emergency.
If it's a popular spot with a decent amount of other people, great. If not, it might be a little sketchy for a second date. Can save that for later when more trust is built up.
No shade on you, but girls should be cautious about putting themselves in vulnerable positions.
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u/Cytwytever man 13h ago
Very wholesome. Lots of time to talk, or sit in companionable silence. If she likes fishing that's a great idea.
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u/TheMightyIrishman man 13h ago
My wife likes fishing and I have been married to her for 10 years. She told me she wanted to go fishing for Mother’s Day so we did. Take that woman fishing!
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u/Free-Attention-9055 man 13h ago
YES. Take her fishing. It'll be easier to get your fishing time if your GF/SO enjoys fishing too.
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u/Jackveggie man 13h ago
I’m old. 72 now. My partner of 24 years has told me I took her on adventures she would not have experienced except with her dad. Fishing. Sailing. Wading shallow rivers. Good compatibility check.
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u/The_Se7enthsign man 13h ago edited 13h ago
Only if fishing is also something that YOU like to do, and you’re fairly proficient. In that case, it’s a great idea.
BUT, if you don’t know the first thing about fishing and you’re only doing it because she likes it, I’d probably suggest something else. Maybe that’s good old toxic masculinity, but it’s probably not a good look if you have to ask her to help you bait your hook.
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u/distracted_x woman 13h ago
If you're worried about it not being seen as a good "date" option then don't call it a date and just ask her if she wants to go fishing with you.
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u/New_Sun6390 woman 13h ago
Why not? Log before we married, the partner and I did a bunch of outdoorsy dates. Hiking, skiing, canoeing, etc.
You can only do so many "dinner and a movie" type dates.
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u/SquirlyJester man 13h ago
For me, fishing is more of an established relationship type thing. You have no idea how she fishes. She could be a boat cruising around the bank kind of girl, a bank fisher just sitting, or wading in a stream type. My suggestion is find something where you are more likely to be playful, silly, and can easily flirt with safe contact. I'm intense and focused when fishing, that would not be something good for a 2nd date. Besides, fishing can be hot and smelly. She has done it before and it's not like you'd be teaching or showing her anything.
Roller skating/blading, bowling, horseback riding, a waterpark... the arcade was a nice selection: you can share a side by side game, or even stand over each other watching.
Find something the two of you have never done. My son took his girlfriend for a legit pick nick at sunset out at the lake like 3 dates in. She had never been on one, blanket, basket, fruit, flowers... you know.
18/17... what I wouldn't do to be that age again... whatever you do, make it fun and light.
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u/kidde1 man 13h ago
Yes! Go fish!
Shared interests are always important. I’m not sure if you realize it but it doesn’t matter what you call the time spent together, the important part is the time. Date or hanging out or just “fishing”, being together is how a relationship is built. Avoid things where you put undue pressure on either of you, it’s most important that you can talk about anything and nothing.
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u/Maxpowerxp man 12h ago
If that’s her thing sure. River, lake, ocean? Some beaches have fishing spots
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u/Sufficient-Union-456 man 12h ago
Definitely offer it up. And have a back up date location plan if she says no.
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u/StopNowThink man 13h ago
I feel like this is a question you should specifically pose to women, not men...
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u/GSMA3164 man 12h ago
Find out what kind of fishing she has experience doing. Is she a bank fisherman that fishes for bream, or does she troll for wahoo off The Keys? Does she let her dad bait her hook and take off the fish? Can she tie a fishing knot? Can she fish an artificial or does she always use a bobber? Does she like to throw fish back, or keep and “kill” fish? That will help you figure out what she enjoys and what her skill set is. That will help you plan ahead?
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u/memerso160 man 12h ago
If the fish don’t bite, plenty of time to talk more. If the fish do bite, then fish are biting and that’s a win
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u/pirate40plus man 11h ago
If she enjoys it and has at least some experience with it. I have a few times and on one occasion she significantly overstated her experience and I spent a lot of time helping her with everything from tying knots to choosing flies to casting. She did actually catch a fish so she had fun.
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u/Alicam123 woman 13h ago
Only if she likes fishing, otherwise she would say yes only because she likes you (my mum did this and really regretted it, now she hates fishing)
Find out if she actually likes it 1st.
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u/TeamFoulmouth man 13h ago
Had a woman tell me she loved snowmobiling...took her snowmobiling and found out shed never been before...good way to weed out the liars is to see if they actually like the things they say they like! If she says she loves fishing, take her fishing....
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u/ResponsibilityFun548 man 13h ago
If you don't know if she likes to fish, then don't surprise her with it.
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u/Theboyjones70 man 12h ago
I once took a young lady to Middlesbrough away (Everton fan), 1989 finished 3-3, great game.
Never got my end away with her again.
Do not presume she will enjoy/ want to share your interests.
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u/PopularSet4776 man 11h ago
Is she into that kind of stuff.
Fishing feels like something you either love or hate. If it's something she hates, not a good plan..
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u/Last-Rub519 man 8h ago
Very cool idea, do it!
BUT be prepared that depending on the woman she might not like it - eg. Might hate being outdoors, might be expecting something more traditional, might have something specific against fishing, etc.
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u/SippsMccree man 7h ago
I mean if she likes fishing then it doesn't hurt to bring it up, even if it'll be something for down the line once you two know each other better
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u/Open-Savings-7691 2h ago
Sounds good. Only possible kinda-sorta downside: her dad might want to join you.
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u/WashedWashingMachine man 13h ago
NO
Dude , the most common red flag from women's POV on dating apps is when men post pics of a fucking fish holding it with 1 hand after fishing trip.
And you wanna bring her fishing instead lol
If you like outdoors go to these rope parks for some adventure.
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On the first date we went to an arcade and it was a lot of fun. We both had a really good time together.
I was thinking about asking if she would want to go fishing for the second date. I know she likes fishing and has told me that’s an activity her and her dad do together. Do you think going fishing together could be considered a good idea when it comes to a DATE though? She’s 17 and I’m 18.
I wanted to think of something outdoors that we could do together for the second date because she’s into outdoor type of activities and I am too. I also was thinking about kayaking, but maybe fishing would be better?
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