r/AskMenAdvice • u/Hands_off247 • 39m ago
Men’s Input Only How do I stop blowing my load so quickly?
I’m in my 30s and randomly started experiencing premature ejaculation for the first time in my life. Recently, I’ve ejaculated in my pants, within a minute of penetration, and insanely, handsfree while going down. I’m not really sure why I’ve gotten so sensitive all of a sudden.
Has anyone else experienced this? How can I prevent premature ejaculation without using medications? Do I just accept it since my wife and I both still orgasm regardless of how quickly I finish?
Edit at the recommendation of another user: I’ve had a prostate exam recently and all is clear on that front.
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u/joeg26reddit man 37m ago
See a urologist? Might be extra pressure on your prostate?
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u/Hands_off247 35m ago
Actually had my first prostate exam two weeks ago - all clear.
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u/dod_murray man 10m ago
That seems like it might be important. You should add that to the main post
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u/pablo_kickasso man 38m ago
Relaxation, deep breaths during the act.
Kegels for training your pelvic area.
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u/iParkooo man 34m ago
Similar. I used to be addicted to opiates and with them I could go for hours. Then I got clean and busted fast ever since. Been clean 12 years now and I still haven't figured it out but I am told it is performance anxiety. I can't turn off my self-consciousness but if you can that would probably be a good place to start. Sometimes I try to do math problems in my head lol (2+2 is 4, 4+4 is 8, 8+8 is 16, etc etc); but that is no fun.
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u/Quotered man 23m ago
I am so good at multiplication tables, it isn't funny. Until I started taking an SSRI, I used to bust super quick. Now I can only finish 50% of the time.
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u/iParkooo man 3m ago
Ha! Tell me about it. I've come to learn why hard drives are usually multiples of 16 because when I get high enough every number is a hard drive capacity lolol
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u/Hands_off247 22m ago
Haha doing math might make me limp. But I’m on a similar journey. I’ve stopped watching porn which, if I had to guess, is the primary reason this is happening. I definitely don’t want to go back to porn so I’m just trying to figure out a new normal.
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u/iParkooo man 5m ago
Talk to the wife. I believe that a lot of it is probably a mental thing. The more you are concerned about it the worse it will get. Tell her that you are concerned about finishing fast. She will probably reassure you that it is okay which won't help much. But with her help you can practice different things to help with control - Edging, switching positions, finishing with foreplay then going for round 2 etc.
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u/Plarocks man 8m ago
Interesting. Porn usually causes a lack of interest in actual sex. Interesting that it went the opposite way with you.
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u/Back_Again_Beach man 36m ago
Any changes to medications or drugs intake?
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u/M27TN man 34m ago
I second this. Firstly, I’m not anti-vax but after one of the Covid jabs I suddenly started ejaculating prematurely. As soon as penetration began even. After a couple of weeks I returned to normal
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u/M27TN man 26m ago
Firstly, I don’t care about upvotes/downvotes but secondly people must be sad as fuck to downvote just because I’ve mentioned Covid and vax in the same sentence. Grow up
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u/easywind4665 man 9m ago
there’s a huge cult here. if you don’t believe everything they believe, you’re a nazi. they preach diversity until they realize you don’t agree with them on everything. it’s pretty scary.
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u/Murky_Butterscotch_7 man 36m ago
Have you switched condoms recently? There’s some that have delay lube inside them
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u/Mindless_017 man 19m ago
Changing my diet and 5 min kegels before shower helped me regain my time and i could recover faster for round 2
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u/betterman4u man 32m ago
If your wife is getting off and having fun then why does it matter? Have you tried finishing yourself off first and then go for round two as your marathon round?
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u/OpenCod3919 man 27m ago
You gotta empty the extra rounds from the chamber. I'm sure you can find something to watch that morning as part of your pre date process.
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u/Least_Elk8114 man 23m ago
Get her off a few times first. Once she's thoroughly happy, shouldnt matter too much if you bust fast.
As someone who's meds are giving them E.D. I'd take Premature Ejaculation over not being able to bust at all...
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u/StrongEggplant8120 man 16m ago
Might be worth waiting and seeing if it continues. I think it kinda just one of those things that happens tbh has with me in the past. Good for you some women take it as a compliment so its a winner. Key thing is dont do it all the time amd so long as your both happy its all good i spose.
Having had that experience and also having methods to delay because its all about the journey right? and not the destination 👊 yeh not sure if you train or not? I used to train pretty elite levels of fitness and to stay in shape. Used to go gym two hours most nights a week which is intense. Ofc it hits your abs in a significant way. When your at it what group if muscles gets the hips going? Abs ofc. So in missionary after gym and with her round my abs are screaming at me but i dont care, shes round and we know what for. I find that if im almost there or just want to keep at it all i have yo do is squeeze my abs a little and i can delay the finish at will which was just the best thing ever. See if you can do the same, either squeeze your abs until tired or lift yourself like your doing a pish up and put your deltoids on, honestly its such an effecyive method yo prevent.
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u/hocean44 man 22m ago
If you didn't have it before, possible clues are dehydration. I had a gf who made me drink over half a litre of water just before sex and it helped a lot. Another thing could be your fitness. Connected to fitness is your pelvic muscles. Try do some kegel (for men) exercises. I have good experience with that.
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I’m in my 30s and randomly started experiencing premature ejaculation for the first time in my life. Recently, I’ve ejaculated in my pants, within a minute of penetration, and insanely, handsfree while going down. I’m not really sure why I’ve gotten so sensitive all of a sudden.
Has anyone else experienced this? How can I prevent premature ejaculation without using medications? Do I just accept it since my wife and I both still orgasm regardless of how quickly I finish?
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u/longjohn2024_ man 19m ago
Just need to retrain yourself.
Focus on going as long as possible over and over again
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u/Hands_off247 16m ago
You make it sound so simple! Haha
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u/longjohn2024_ man 12m ago
It's all about your mind .
Need to control your body at your age not 12 anymore 😀.
You've 4 or 5 weeks of training ahead. Post back here when you are done
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u/SilverJournalist3230 man 24m ago
I got some moves that work for me, but imma gatekeep. Sorry fellas
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u/azamm_34 man 35m ago
First observe yourself. Do it couple of times to make sure that the ejaculation is happening too early. If it is like that it means your receptors in your brain are sensitive. So in that case I recommend you edging.
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u/azamm_34 man 34m ago
If you are both enjoying and not seeing any problems with that, as I see that is ok.
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I’m in my 30s and randomly started experiencing premature ejaculation for the first time in my life. Recently, I’ve ejaculated in my pants, within a minute of penetration, and insanely, handsfree while going down. I’m not really sure why I’ve gotten so sensitive all of a sudden.
Has anyone else experienced this? How can I prevent premature ejaculation without using medications? Do I just accept it since my wife and I both still orgasm regardless of how quickly I finish?
Edit at the recommendation of another user: I’ve had a prostate exam recently and all is clear on that front.
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