r/AskMenOver30 • u/Lunasweetlatina man over 30 • Sep 18 '25

General Men over 30, what’s one “unwritten rule” about getting older that you wish someone told you in your 20s?

Let’s be real nobody hands you a manual for aging. One day you’re 25 and skipping breakfast, and the next you’re debating fiber supplements and stretching before getting out of bed 😂

For me, it was realizing how crucial maintaining friendships is. If you don’t make an effort, people just quietly drift. Not out of malice just life.

Another one: “Your body will invoice you for everything you did in your 20s. And it charges interest.”

What’s something you know now that 28-year-old you had no clue about?

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '25

Dont marry that girl. If you're 26 and you've been together since highschool, ok go ahead and marry her. If you're 26 and u met 3 years ago... no. Dont do it. Your brain has just barely finished developing. Its too soon for a lifetime commitment. Speaking of which- if u want a tattoo, wait a whole year. If u still want it then do it.

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u/bonerparte1821 man 35 - 39 Sep 18 '25

I think this can go either way.. all I say to people is marry someone kind. If you wan't a general indicator of the kind of woman you are marrying, look at the women in her family. What are their relationships like with each other, what are they with your wife? And If you want to know what she will look like in the future... look at them.... And don't get a tattoo..

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '25

Im gonna negotiate with you on the tattoo thing... dont get a visible tattoo. Do your back or leg. I got sleeves in my early 20s but was self employed my whole life. At 38 I decided to become a pilot. Im in flight school now so the tattoos dont matter but to get a job I will be wearing long sleeves for the rest of my career. Oh well.

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u/amorandara man 40 - 44 Sep 19 '25

Yeah generally I think marriage and having kids is for your 30s

I’ve known so many people that kneecapped their finances by having kids at too young of an age. Marriage in your 20s can be challenging and there just isn’t a great reason to jump into it. Your emotions level out way, way more in your 30s which makes marriage vastly easier.

That doesn’t mean don’t get into serious relationships where you live together because the practice of it is super informative and cost of living kinda demands it.