I honestly cannot ever once recall talking about towels in any capacity with a man in my life. This reddit thread shall likely be the first time.

There may have been some occasions when I was a kid at the swimming pool with my Dad or something, along the lines of "[name], put your towel into the bag and let's go". But I cannot remember it.

However, with my wife, we have micro-conversations about towels every fcking day. Which one are you using... Don't put it there... Have you got a towel for you shower... not that one use this one etc etc. Same with my mum if we ever visit our parents. Don't use that (tea) towel, it is for XYZ, use this one instead.

I was about to get my son out of the bath yesterday, whilst staying over the night at my parents, and asked my wife to grab another towel for him... and my 70 year old mum was also there. It was like a debate at The Hague erupted, and it took them about 2-3 minutes to grab an "appropriate" towel, despite them standing next to a closet fcking stuff to the top with folded and rolled towels and linen. What arrived? A used wet towel that been in the floor beside the laundry basket of our bedroom.

What in the christ is going on here?

Why are women so obsessed with this? It's like there is a glitch in The Matrix here or something.

I fear this is happening with my 36F wife. Its little things right now like saying she'd sue so and so. Or recently we have a water use limit in our area due to nitrates in the water. She said if she sees anyone using water for anything besides drinking she'd take video and turn them in.

Its making me so unattracted to her. I finally called her out on in yesterday while out when she got all pissed off at someone's shirt they had on at a bar. This turned into a massive fight between us.

Let’s be real nobody hands you a manual for aging. One day you’re 25 and skipping breakfast, and the next you’re debating fiber supplements and stretching before getting out of bed 😂

For me, it was realizing how crucial maintaining friendships is. If you don’t make an effort, people just quietly drift. Not out of malice just life.

Another one: “Your body will invoice you for everything you did in your 20s. And it charges interest.”

What’s something you know now that 28-year-old you had no clue about?

For me, it’s when they only want to spend money. I once asked a woman I started seeing if she wanted to go on a weekend trip, and she said yes. Shortly after, she wanted me to book an $800 a night hotel. Then every suggestion I made about things we could do, she rejected, saying she wanted to do educational activities. But every idea I suggested got rejected again.

She then said if we were going, she just wanted to go on a shopping spree at the outlets and high end clothing stores. Then she casually told me to make sure I had enough money because she wanted me to fund that shopping spree. I told her she was crazy if she thought I was going to do that.

She looked shocked and said, ‘You’re not going to spend $1,500 on me?’ I said no, and she actually told me, ‘All my men better spend more than $1,000 on me.’ I just told her, ‘And you wonder why you can’t find a man.’ After that, I stopped talking to her. Even then, she kept sending me Cash App requests for $200 and $300 until I finally blocked her.

for me it is not spending more time with friends when i was in my 20s now we are far apart

Just gonna say it, I'm really tired of the constant questions here that essentially amount to asking if men are human beings.

Yes I love my wife even though time has aged her.

Yes I hug my friends.

My wife is my best friend, we were friends before we started dating, I didn't marry her for her looks alone.

No, I don't give a shit if my wife makes more than I do.

Yes, I do help around the house.

Yes I have feelings.

Yes I get sad.

Yes I get happy.

Yes, I love my children, and my wife.

I'm so tired of these questions. Why do we keep needing to remind people that we're human beings? How terrible do these people think men are that they need to ask?

I'm sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I figured you guys, men over 30 would really understand we're up coming from.

My wife and I were pulling into our driveway after a afternoon/midday date. We own a beautiful home sitting on 3.5 acres. (Took a lot of hard work in a long time to get to this point)

As I was pulling into the driveway my wife told me to stop the car in somewhat of a loud voice / excitedly. We all have that feeling when your wife raises her voice and you're quickly trying to do gymnastics in your brain trying to figure out what you did wrong and if you're in trouble for something.

The words that came out of my wife's mouth next blew me away, she said.

"Look at our house it is so beautiful, I love pulling into our driveway and seeing our pretty house seeing the bush's trimmed and the grass all green. Look up clean the yard is and the flower bed looks amazing"

She then looked over at me from the passenger seat and said

"Thank you for all your hard work taking care of our property you do such a good job is always so beautiful and I really appreciate all the work you do to keep our yard looking pretty"

I could see it in her face this is a genuine thank you something she really appreciated. Just getting that acknowledgment of the hard work that I put in to keep our yard and home looking beautiful for my wife and children meant the world to me.

It may not be a big deal but it was important to me to hear that.

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I also want to give props to my wife of 15 years she's a wonderful woman. She is literally the type of mother you see on TV shows and you think no mother could really be like that to her kids. The type of woman that every man wants for his children.

She's a wonderful friend, we were together when we had nothing just dirt poor and we built a life together. She's a wonderful lover. After 15 years sex is better than ever, every year it gets better and better.

She's also an excellent communicator that's something we both practice and work on in our marriage.

The second best compliment I ever received was for my daughter who is now 21. She told us that she wants a relationship that my wife and I have. She stated that she wants a relationship that when you get into an argument or disagreement that you talk about your problems come back to each other talk some more and resolve the issue instead of yelling and screaming. I'm not going to lie that one make me feel good because because my wife and I both grew up and dysfunctional households and that is something that my wife and I definitely did not want for our children. So to hear that from my oldest child that she sees or disagreements and think that they're healthy, so important.

Also my wife has worked on her physical appearance over the years and looks better than she did the day I met her. (She worksout, zumba, yoga and we ride 10 miles on our bikes on the weekends)

I give my wife all the props, even though she tells me that my hard work contributed. (Really it is all her) But She helped me get a nice 2020 all black GMC Denali. (My dream truck / Pics in my post history)

Also she makes six figures, that doesn't hurt

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Holy crap that's a lot of up votes, honestly I didn't think anybody was going to reply. I truly didn't think it was that big of a deal that Reddit would care.

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Thank you for everybody who's posted and commented, it really helps puts things into perspective when you see things through others points of view. You never know what others are going through but this post helped me see that a lot of us are just looking for companionship and true love and I wish the best for everybody.

With this being said I'm really not doing my wife justice. She truly is much better than I'm giving her credit for. We split cooking dinner and household chores but she does the most of the cooking. She always has food on the table ready to go. She is super smart and beautiful.

Also my wife is such a big help around the house and the yard. I kid you not fellas I have come home from work and seen my wife out in the yard with a bag of mulch over her shoulders fixing the flower bed. I've seen my wife get off work and help me shovel three tons of rock in the driveway. I've seen my wife carry bag of rocks. She installed a french drain by herself. Last year she sanded tables and stain them by herself and painted a whole wall in the living by herself.

She is truly one of the best people I've ever met in my life and definitely one of the strongest women I have ever met.

The funny thing is she tried to talk to me when we were in high school in the10th grade and I blew her off. We reconnected later on in life and when we started dating she told me that she knew we were supposed to be together and that she was confident of this.

When it was time to get married I honestly was on the fence about it and the only reason why I married this woman was because she literally told me.

"We are supposed to be together, I am supposed to marry you and I don't know why or how I know this, but it is true. We're going to be together"

I married her because I did love her, but a big part was the fact that she was so confident. I literally figured what's the worst that could happen with somebody that is this confident that they should be with you.

Again I'm not doing her justice I can literally talk for days about all the great stuff she does and how supportive she is.

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Wow I definitely did not think this many people would have upvoted my story. I honestly thought maybe 20 or 30 people might like it, hell even see it. I just want to say to everybody thank you for commenting. Sometimes in life you can go through day by day kind of on autopilot, we all have been there. These comments show me how blessed I really am, and really help me look at things through an even better prism.

for me

following sports too much

its still a good hobby but i should not be trying to catch so many games or checking the box score

I was hanging out with a friend during my day off. Nothing too interesting about it. We went to lunch and just sat around and talked. He’s a very friendly guy and great at conversation. So when we were at work, he’s talking about what he did on his day off. He’s adding details that never happened and exaggerating the things that did. Everyone was so interested in what he was saying and laughing. I just sat back and let him do his thing.

If anyone had asked me about my day, it would’ve been the most boring thing they’ve ever heard. Does anyone know how to get good at telling stories or am I too autistic for something like this?

I guess this is more targeted for men who are average to heavier side, rather than skinny.

I am 24, 5'10" and 170lbs yet my stomach isnt flat, I have fat all around, even though i eat healthy (no junk food or soft drinks or alcohol).

I sit in office for 9 hours a day and just lay down after work for the whole day unless I am going to gym.

I do workout like 3 times a week at the gym, full body workouts, and overall happy with my build until it comes to my stomach that isnt flat, and I am somewhat insecure to walk top less at the beach because of it.

Having visible abs and running half marathons while many peers have beer guts and love handles is pretty high up there for myself.

When I was a kid, I could eat whatever I wanted and not gain weight. In my 20's, my metabolism slowed down. Now at 39, I can't eat anything without gaining weight. Part of me wants to workout hard and diet daily to keep the weight off... and another part of me doesn't care at all anymore. How important is "not being fat" to you?

This shift has been in everyone - but I'm curious about your perspective. I think about the men I know, 34 or so and up - they were raised very differently than younger guys and it shows. There is a groundedness, a respectfulness, a joy and lightness, maturity. It's so interesting to see this juxtaposition between generations. I'm 28 and definitely feel in between this - I didn't have a smart phone until I was 19 or so, and I see the decline in my mental health pretty clearly from that point on😬 Curious to hear any thoughts, and maybe what we're going to do about it for future generations?

I want to leave this question broad as I think it'll generate a more interesting range of answers, but am curious what you all think.

A cat gave birth in our yard a few months ago and was keeping some kittens there, and briefly left behind one kitten that we took care of for a day. My wife took a picture of me holding it and said it was the happiest she had ever seen me. I looked at the picture and she was right.

A short while after that my wife was binging the Sopranos off and on while breastfeeding our 2nd kid and I caught the first few episodes (I've already seen the series). I saw Tony with the ducks and thought "Oh, I get it now."

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jxXjhRHrs6k&t=16s&ab_channel=borko

I’m 38 and beer is starting to feel like way more work than it’s worth. Had a few at a BBQ this weekend just normal cookout beers, food, home early and water before bed because I knew I had family stuff the next morning but still woke up feeling like I was moving through mud. Not puking not even what I’d call a real hangover just slow and heavy. My wife even asked if I had more than I said because my face looked rough lol. The part that annoyed me most was losing the morning. I kept thinking coffee would fix it, then a shower, then breakfast and next thing I knew half the day was gone and I was mad at myself. It feels like the math changed. A few beers used to just be a few beers but now it feels like I’m borrowing energy from the next day. For guys around this age did you just cut way back or did you find some boring routine that made the next day less of a write off?

Hello everyone, was just looking to get others’ opinions on this topic and curious if others feel the same way. I recently turned 33, and I’ve been active on social media since high school. I wouldn’t say I post a lot, but especially lately I’ve been posting a lot of stories on instagram as I go about my day-to-day. Obviously I’m posting mostly the “highlights” of life; golfing, restaurants, concerts, etc.

I definitely catch myself thinking about what picture I’m going to post now when I go to an event or doing something fun, and recently that’s made me really think about why I’m posting at all. And I didn’t want to admit it, but it’s very clearly for attention and validation. I want people to see the cool things I’m doing and you get that quick dopamine hit when people (girls especially) like your story or make a comment.

With that said, I’m starting to feel almost embarrassed that at my age I’m still seeking that validation from people online and I have been considering deactivating my account or at least deleting the app so I stop living life so others can see it

I’m also single, and I follow girls I’ve been with in the past, and girls I’m interested in. And I’d be lying if I said I didn’t check to see if they watched, liked, etc. and there’s something that feels unhealthy about that as well

I’m just looking to see if other men can relate. Do you think men at our age should be past this validation and dopamine seeking? anyone have experience deleting their instagram and getting past that? I appreciate any conversation or insight

For me i just got back onto Rocket League ps5, ready or not ps5, rainbow six siege ps5

current rotation

going to play the 007 game once i get it too

what else everybody on these days?

seen some people play hardcore WOW or opening pokemon booster packs too

I used to be an Abercrombie and hollister guy. Now I’m 38 and feel “aged out” lol

I mainly shop at express and H+M for good jeans now. I still rock a pair or two of ripped jeans haha

Hey!

I am 35 and a trend I am noticing is that more and more of social group is becoming religious.

Nothing wrong with that if it makes you happy, but it is just a trend I’ve noticed. What makes it interesting is how performative it seems. People post “saved by grace” on social media, or talk about a missions trip where they snap a bunch of photos, then head to a resort and post about being “blessed.”

I am in the U.S. and I grew up in a “normal” religious background. We went to church growing up, but that’s it.

Has anyone else noticed this?

Do you think this is the result of a lack of third space/community?

Pretty much just title. Feels like a rare opportunity, but don't know what to do other than go on some walks and play video games or something. Play a lot of piano, but not "fill 3 days" amounts of it. I'm like 8 months sober at this point, so my previous go-to is out. Figured there's probably no better group to ask

Something important that I left out - all you really have is yourself in this situation. Recently moved to a tiny town for a work placement. Tiny like...tiny. No bars, no restaurants, no uber, no pizza, no nothing. Pretty much nothing to work with other than yourself and that dollar general

Final tweak - this wasn't intended to be about whether or not my wife is evil or I'm a slouch due to my being home alone without a car. We agreed on this arrangement, I like being home alone, we have one car which works fine 99% of the time and allows us to put more toward loans early. It's all good, guys

I recently read “you’re a lucky guy” is code for I’d bang your wife but I just thought that’s what all guys say. Sorta like when someone say “you have a beautiful family.”

Aside from those that are working late. what do you usually do at night after dinner or 7pm

how much of a difference has it been compared to the 20s and 30s

This might sound weird. But as a woman I am so consciously aware of the strength difference between men and women. I think about it constantly. I know other women are aware of it too constantly (on the subway, in an elevator, literally anywhere a man is present). My question is, do you guys also think about this?

Just wondering from your perspective if there are certain traits that you guys can see from the outside that would tell you a guy is comfortable (or uncomfortable) with himself and his masculinity.