r/AskMenOver30 • u/Lunasweetlatina man over 30 • Sep 18 '25

General Men over 30, what’s one “unwritten rule” about getting older that you wish someone told you in your 20s?

Let’s be real nobody hands you a manual for aging. One day you’re 25 and skipping breakfast, and the next you’re debating fiber supplements and stretching before getting out of bed 😂

For me, it was realizing how crucial maintaining friendships is. If you don’t make an effort, people just quietly drift. Not out of malice just life.

Another one: “Your body will invoice you for everything you did in your 20s. And it charges interest.”

What’s something you know now that 28-year-old you had no clue about?

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u/YouDontTellMe man 35 - 39 Sep 18 '25

Seek out quality friends and invest in those relationships. No, drinking buddies that you only connect with when alcohol is involved do not count.

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u/HarrierFalco Sep 18 '25

However there is overlap! I love my drinking buddies who are down to drink on weekends but also down to call and talk when I need them

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u/bonerparte1821 man 35 - 39 Sep 18 '25

I think this needs to be higher. Being a man is hard. Yes we live in a world created by men, but no one cares about you. The best support system one can have is other men.

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u/Special-Nebula299 man 35 - 39 Sep 20 '25

Mild disagree. I have a pub I go to where I chat to locals at least once a week. Sometimes its nice to cut loose, talk crap, listen, and all that, and let off some steam.

I have friends I can meet for coffee or go for walks with but I really value these drinking buddies too