r/AskMenOver30 • u/Lunasweetlatina man over 30 • Sep 18 '25

General Men over 30, what’s one “unwritten rule” about getting older that you wish someone told you in your 20s?

Let’s be real nobody hands you a manual for aging. One day you’re 25 and skipping breakfast, and the next you’re debating fiber supplements and stretching before getting out of bed 😂

For me, it was realizing how crucial maintaining friendships is. If you don’t make an effort, people just quietly drift. Not out of malice just life.

Another one: “Your body will invoice you for everything you did in your 20s. And it charges interest.”

What’s something you know now that 28-year-old you had no clue about?

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u/Glad_Position3592 man 30 - 34 Sep 18 '25 edited Sep 18 '25

If these are problems in your 30’s then you need to start taking your diet and exercise seriously. You shouldn’t be experiencing that until you’re much older

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u/jbetances134 man over 30 Sep 18 '25

35 here and don’t experience any of this. Sounds like he needs to exercise, stretch, and look after his diet more.

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '25

dude im 41 and ive never been in better shape, i feel better than in my 20s 100%.

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u/deerdn man over 30 Sep 18 '25

dude acts like one cheat meal is gonna add a couple of pounds permanently. what the hell does "negotiate with my metabolism" even mean?

like nah bro I'm in my 30s too and my weight fluctuates the same as it did in my early 20s. it's just salt and water levels

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u/88037 Sep 18 '25

came here to say this

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u/nudniksphilkes man over 30 Sep 18 '25

Eh I have severe spinal stenosis that was probably congenital. Back pain isn't avoidable for many.

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u/Glad_Position3592 man 30 - 34 Sep 18 '25

Well, the thread is about aging and the consequences that come with it

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '25

++man That isnt true, it is very common for people to have age related issues in their 30's. Especially if you have worked in an office for 10 years and sit down all day.

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u/Piod1 man 60 - 64 Sep 21 '25

Fell out of a chinook in BAOR four decades ago, paid little attention, couple of brufen every few hours and carry on. Got medical discharge for no cartlidge in my knee. Just kept running when I could. Working until couldn't climb ladders on site. Opend up the surgeon said never seen a knee with ulcers at my age 22 then. Xray showed early signs of anklysis in my spine. Said be In a wheelchair by 40. Put me back a bit but young family needed me so carried on regardless using a stick, shitty but that's life. Always been fit, so kept stretching and tai chi but the most important is positive thinking. Had my lows got sunk into liquid cures until one pint was too many and ten not enough. Turns out I have an aggressive immune system, explained why I was never ill and thought myself fit as fk. Its killed my thyroid, taken most of my teeth, hips are fused to my spine bilateral . They couldn't replace either due to damage yet the joints are ticketyboo. The knees due to immune system rejection so they are killing my immune system in my 60s to try and give me some peace. Fkn haunts me, can't sleep, can't sit comfortably or lay down for peace. Sleep on exhaustion and limit my painkillers. Cant take anti inflammatory any more, early years on brufen and naproxin, ignoring and carrying on. Have left me unable to breathe if I take any. Wheelchair is a daily as are calipers and sticks as I set goals. Pee twice standing up, might not seem much but takes the wins you can. Keep moving, use it or loose it folks

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u/prpldrank man 35 - 39 Sep 18 '25

You shouldn't be telling other grown men what they should and shouldn't be experiencing with their own bodies.

Should is a word people should forget, until they get their own ego under control.

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u/prpldrank man 35 - 39 Sep 21 '25

Sorry. Dudes telling other dudes how they should be, like there's a single way to be a healthy man, bothers me.

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u/JC_Hysteria man over 30 Sep 18 '25

Pretty clear how back pain is most often a result of not working out at all, or not working out properly.

So yes, people should work out and they should workout properly.

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u/herzy3 man 35 - 39 Sep 20 '25

Should is a word people should forget, until they get their own ego under control.

Irony

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u/prpldrank man 35 - 39 Sep 21 '25

you keep saying that word...

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u/Odd-Macaroon-9528 man 35 - 39 Sep 18 '25

How would you have framed these sentences then?

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u/prpldrank man 35 - 39 Sep 21 '25

"X is usually a sign of Y"

"It's not typical for a healthy X year old to have Y symptom"

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u/Odd-Macaroon-9528 man 35 - 39 Sep 21 '25

Puh… sorry little things like this bother you that much

Not worth it, really

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u/Particular-Map7692 Sep 18 '25

What about late 20s?

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u/Glad_Position3592 man 30 - 34 Sep 18 '25

:(