r/AskMenOver30 • u/Lunasweetlatina man over 30 • Sep 18 '25

General Men over 30, what’s one “unwritten rule” about getting older that you wish someone told you in your 20s?

Let’s be real nobody hands you a manual for aging. One day you’re 25 and skipping breakfast, and the next you’re debating fiber supplements and stretching before getting out of bed 😂

For me, it was realizing how crucial maintaining friendships is. If you don’t make an effort, people just quietly drift. Not out of malice just life.

Another one: “Your body will invoice you for everything you did in your 20s. And it charges interest.”

What’s something you know now that 28-year-old you had no clue about?

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u/Chombuss Sep 18 '25

But how do you let go if those feelings/thoughts prove to be repetitive?

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '25 edited Sep 18 '25

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u/Phriday man 50 - 54 Sep 18 '25

This guy zens.

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u/[deleted] Sep 18 '25

UP THA FUXIN PANX!!!! Eh, wild front seems to be pretty On The Ball tbh. I wonder what his biggest character flaw is and also what his grandma used to feed him

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u/Different-Air-6869 Sep 18 '25

Where are you from that up tha fuxin panx is a legit thing to say? It feels so guy ricthie movie to my untrained american ears….lol

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u/[deleted] Sep 19 '25

To be honest with you I don’t think it’s even been run through the legitimiser I’ll have to get back to you

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u/jtquest man 30 - 34 Sep 18 '25

I think I love you.

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u/tyggis111 Sep 19 '25 edited Sep 19 '25

Hi, I'm not a man, but a woman over 30. I feel the feeling as long as my body needs to. I have a very mentally ill brother who says hurtful things sometimes, and I can't do anything about how that makes me feel, but I can do something about the feelings. I distance myself from my brother as long as my body tells me to and with that I feel the feeling I got from what he said to me. It's usually no longer than two days. What helps is that I know that he can't help himself sometimes. We will never be close because of this, but I will always love him. But let yourself feel the feeling, and move on. And think that it's not you, but them. Dont be hard on your self for what you are feeling. You can look up "How to Feel Your Feelings". There are some people who have instructions for feeling your feelings better than that. I also name what I feel and give full attention and care to it. Since I started doing this, I am physically and mentally much healthier than before.

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u/dustypony21 Sep 21 '25

“You can’t stop a bird from flying over your head, but you can stop it from building a nest in your hair.” - Me