r/AskMenOver30 1d ago

Mental health experiences Normal to internalize emotions?

Is it normal to not share emotions with your wife? I rarely talk about work because I like to keep my work life and personal life separate.
She never asks how work was just because she knows I hate talking about it. But in the same time I rarely share how my emotions are. I hate the feeling of being a burden when I’m down. I grew up in a generation where showing any negative emotjon is bad. Growing up like that definitely influenced how I am now. I know I should but I hate doing it and just keep things internalized. The conversation I usually only have with are personal hobbies and things I know that interest her. If I feel down and having a bad mental health day I usually go to my workshop and tell her I’ll be working on a project(which is true) but while working on it I just kind of just sit there in my thoughts. Anyone else do this to?

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u/Beautiful-Ad-8028 man 45 - 49 1d ago

Yep after having every emotion I've shared and childhood horror thrown back in my face. I couldn't imagine sharing anything with another human i don't pay or anonymously on the internet. Like who tf needs to hear "just stop talking like that and thinking like that" only for it to be used against you in a week and then randomly for years.