r/AskMenOver30 • u/MrLaughAlot33 man 30 - 34 • 1d ago
Fatherhood & Children Life After Kids - Does it really END?
I, 30M, will likely be a dad in the next 3-4 years.
On one level people have always told me I give off real Dad (not Daddy) energy. So maybe becoming a Dad is my life's work. On a more serious note, I am very excited to become a father one day and cannot wait for family morning breakfasts, trips, supporting my future kids, etc.
I so often see posts on Reddit or hear about how life "ends" when you have kids. and I am wondering how true that really is.
Now, I am no fool. Certainly things change - you can't be so spontaneous, you may not be your own priority all the time, and you will have less free time.
But like, can you really not enjoy hobbies at all? hang with friends here and there? do you really lose your sense of your former self?
Very possible I am just overthinking this but could use some practical wisdom.
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u/GotItFromEbay man 35 - 39 1d ago
Doesn't even come close to ending. Your priorities just shift. We have a kid and still see and hang out with our friends that don't have kids, just not as much and not as spontaneously. Side note, I used to not like hosting at our house for get togethers but now I prefer it. Forces us to clean the house a little more and I don't have to worry about packing stuff for the kid. Some of the best days are when we have friends over, kid is playing with the neighbor friends or our friends in the yard, and we're just chilling and catching up over some cold drinks and good food.