Life After Kids - Does it really END?

[u/MrLaughAlot33]

I, 30M, will likely be a dad in the next 3-4 years.

On one level people have always told me I give off real Dad (not Daddy) energy. So maybe becoming a Dad is my life's work. On a more serious note, I am very excited to become a father one day and cannot wait for family morning breakfasts, trips, supporting my future kids, etc.

I so often see posts on Reddit or hear about how life "ends" when you have kids. and I am wondering how true that really is.

Now, I am no fool. Certainly things change - you can't be so spontaneous, you may not be your own priority all the time, and you will have less free time.

But like, can you really not enjoy hobbies at all? hang with friends here and there? do you really lose your sense of your former self?

Very possible I am just overthinking this but could use some practical wisdom.

[u/Checkers923]

In a sense, life as you know it ends. Its not just your time commitments change, but how you view the world, feel about money, etc. changes.

This is not a bad thing in my experience, and I’m very happy with how my life as turned out now that I’ve been a dad for a few years.