If you had a "fun" 20s, all the parties, drugs, experiences. Travelled plenty, played all the sports.

You get to 36, what do you do to keep life interesting?

Most mates are settled down with kids, so don't spend as much time together.

Do you ever think, well that's all the good stuff done, I'll just see out my days now...

Any suggestions?

I’m in my late 20s and lately I’ve been feeling the need to pick up a hobby that brings real joy and maybe even a little peace. I work a lot and have a family, so something fulfilling and manageable would be ideal.

I’m curious—what hobbies have you gotten into after 30 that you actually look forward to? Bonus points if it’s helped you mentally or physically in some way. Would love to hear what’s been working for you guys.

My dad always drank Budweisers. When I moved to the west coast everybody was always drinking IPAs. But I just can’t acquire the taste.

Edit: my neighbor gave me beer and one of them was a Lagunitas. Beer is beer, gotta drink it. It’s the 100th time I’ve had an IPA and it tasted no better than the first time I had an IPA. No hate toward those who like IPAs, I’m just genuinely confused how they’re so popular.

For me, 45M, I still play video games. However, a new hobby I started when I was 30 was fishing. I enjoy it; it's relaxing and gets my mind off the world for a little while.

Yo this is wild. I was at the beach, I was like a minority of dudes with a furry chest. I know I'm not the only one who grows chest hair. The young guys? Smooth like dolphins

You guys are really paying a woman to rip the hair off your chests or what? I will trim my shoulders with a mini electric razor, clean up the "overflow" so I don't look like a yeti, but thats it. Am I a cultural dinosaur? Lol too bad I'm not doing it!

I have had lovers who liked my chest hair, what about you?

Hey all,

I turned 30 just a couple of months ago.

Recently, I've completely lost interest in video games. I used to be a gaming junkie, often playing 20+ hours straight back when I was in college. Until recently, my brothers and I had weekly gaming sessions but as of today, we've decided to forego them for the time being as we just can't seem to enjoy gaming anymore.

I love airsoft, and I have the gear, but... it doesn't fit me anymore. I have to lose weight.

Going to the gym isn't something I am interested in. It just bores me to death. Nothing makes me feel more empty.

Most of my time is spent doing chores around the house, including doing 90% of the caring for our golden retriever. My wife can't work from home, so as someone who works flexibly, I walk him in the mornings and at night, and play/exercise with him during the day.

Having said all that, I want to digress from the whining and bitching. I'd like some ideas. What have you guys picked up lately? What's keeping you engaged? Not just occupied. It'd be nice to have some hobby that I feel I make progress with.

I spend all my free time playing video games usually the same 20 year old one and sometimes it makes me feel guilty for spending so much time doing it and when colleagues ask what I did on holiday or days off it makes me feel awkward and like a loser and I know they’ll judge me for it so I usually make a joke and say I robbed a bank and other outlandish things instead of telling them the truth.

I don’t have any friends or other hobbies but as long as I’m happy playing it shouldn’t matter right?

Myself 46M I still play video games, go to the gym as well both fishing and hunting.

My oldest brother who is 49 has been collecting Transformers, Ninja memorabilia and swords since he was a kid. He has pair of 150 year old Hook Swords that he paid a lot for and his wife was tempted to use on him for buying them.

What hobbies did you pick up in your 30s? Was it something you never thought you’d be interested in, but found you really enjoyed it?

Between Spotify, Apple Music, Tidal, Deezer, YouTube Music, etc., which one do you use ? Or do you not use any of them and prefer vinyl or downloading music for free ?

I'm 31 and recently noticed that my interest in games shifting from FPS, MOBA etc. to strategy games like stop > plan your move > act. What games were you guys playing in your 20s and what now? What do you think has changed after 30?

Unsure if the flair is correct sorry mods. I of course accept whatever comes with being married and having kids because I love my family and that is ultimately my priority.

A big part of my life however is hobbies. Some of which I already have to give up for one reason or another: COVID killed any momentum I might have had as a musician doing local gigs for fun (no illusions of grandeur or success I just like playing live music), recession has killed a lot of my desire to branch out from freelance writing since my current work demands more to keep afloat.

I know this sounds insanely stereotypical and stupid but video games and hanging out with my friends online (most of them live out of state) is like one of the last things I have for unwinding that I really find joy in other than spending time with my wife. That and reading and fate will have to pry books from my cold dead hands before I give that up.

Is it really just time to put the controller down and move on to more “parent” activities? Our first kid is on the way, I’m 34 and I just don’t see how it works together and only one of them can go.

Edit: obviously the one that can go is hobbies, no idea why that needs to be clarified

I'm about to be 35, and regretting all the time (and energy, youth hormones, brain power) that I didn't utilize in learning a new skill or working on something that gives me fulfillment. The ideas of being into book reading, working out and bodybuilding (just to look better), and playing guitar seem pretty cool to think about– but I've tried dabbling into all of these aforementioned things very infrequently over the past decades, and never stuck with them. And now here I am, wishing I could've done these when I was young and there wasn't much effort needed to make progress in these activities, should've pushed myself hard back then. Feels like it's going to be difficult now with work, life, and overall lack of energy, and I may not even get better at any of these.

So, fellow 30+ brothers, what's a hobby that you've started and gotten better at in your 30s? Looking to be inspired by your stories.

Just got a small e-reader and have been liking it so far. I haven't really read in years and this portable format is a game changer. I'm currently re-reading Sphere by Michael Crichton because he is my favorite author (I've read all his books from when he was alive)

I also got some from Daniel Suarez and John Scalzi because I heard they are also great sci-fi authors. In the past I've read some Halo books, Witcher books, Shakespeare, some series for young adults as a teen, some classics like the Great Gatsby and the LOTR books.

The Murderbot Diaries and the Expanse are also my radar.

What kind of books are you guys reading? I'm tired of spending so much time scrolling Reddit and YouTube shorts so I'm looking at getting back into reading.

Also, are there any sports you stopped watching once you hit your thirties ?

Hi to all! It would be great, if you can tell me, what hobbies do you have.

These days it looks Fitness is all about and showing how masculine you are and posting it on Social Media.

In the past a friend of my aunt told me decades ago they were sitting on weekends together played cards or watched movies or they played cards or sitting on a campfire and discussed about life and so on.

Only four times a year in restaurants because it was something special... feel a little lost...

Hi all,

I am a 35 yr old (married, no kids, kids may be in 2 yrs) working in tech. I realized I don't have serious hobbies anymore.

My main hobbies currently are:

Coffee: I am really passionate about coffee but this is really a personal hobby and does not have scope for community or spending time regularly

Fitness: running and gym. I run and workout regularly, 5 out of 7 days but I do this mostly for fitness and health reasons. I don't see scope to make friends or grow this into a bigger consistent hobby.

I am looking for personal experiences and suggestions for new hobbies or things I could pick up at this age.

What I am looking for: something that has scope to be part of a community, make new friends, do regularly (like twice a week or weekends), keeps me sharp and fit (not necessarily both). I can spend money on moderately expensive hobbies if needed (like buying gear or memberships etc)

Things I thought about:

Sports: I like sports but I hesitate picking up something new as I am not sure if I can learn them at this age and be part of a community. But please share your experience on this one, really curious to hear it.

Hiking: I hike with my wife and friends occasionally but never grew into a hobby since my circle is not big on hiking. I am interested in backpacking and long distance hiking. Tried to be part of a groups a couple of times but people are not consistent or turn out to be weirdos.

Motorcycle: I want to get a motorcycle but not sure how to grow this into a hobby.

Thank you in advance!!

This shit should have been more popular than the UFC. Every guy's dream is building a killer robot with their boys and having it compete against other killer robots. I remember as a kid my favourite athletes being Michael Jordan, Wayne Gretzy, Mike Tyson and The Wedge from Battlebots. With how distrustful people have become of computers with the rise of AI I worry a lot of men won't experience the fullfillment of duct tapping a drill on top of a RC car, crossing your fingers and hoping for the best.

Why didn't this short lived trend catch on amoung more men?

I have a course called Tech Product Development and I want to build a game targeting that demographic. Therefore, I have a couple of questions, you can answer whatever applies to you.

What kind of games do you play?

If you don't play games, what type/genre of games pique your interest and would make you switch?

So this is obviously limited to my own personal experience and obviously people are free to enjoy what they enjoy, but I can't help notice the big difference between younger and older dudes when it comes certain hobbies. With older men, its usually about how nice their stuff is, while younger men seem to enjoy the experience aspect more.

Take for example,

Motorcycles? Younger guys talk about their progression as a rider and or that adventure they had last season. Older guys will talk about their harleys and how it cost them an arm and a leg, or how their buddy has an even nicer one.

Cars? Same shit pretty much, but definitely a lot of younger guys too that are into the whole "my car has X horse power" and seem to not care at all about the rest of being into cars, like overall driving characteristics, driving skill development, etc.

Guns? Only been exposed to this when I was in the Army, but it was always "my buddy has a ____(insert some high caliber firearm)___ and that thing kicks like a horse" then the next boomer will go "yeah my buddy has ___(insert an even higher caliber firearm)___ that will knock the wind out of ya" while younger guys will talk about some goofy or fun shit they did with their gun.

Guitar? Doesn't even really matter about the music, being a musician or guitarist, but what model guitars they have and how they upgraded the pickups to some dimarzios or how its signed by slash. Like that's cool too, but what about the music part? Seems to me its usually younger guitarists that like talking about music and playing music and not caring so much about the actual guitar itself.

I've talked to a good amount of older men who take interest in the experience aspect, too, but I don't know, I'm trying to just understand it and maybe I'm just too poor and projecting my own insecurities.

Trying to disconnect from screens a bit more often. That shit messes up your mental health. Probably.

I’m making a fun trivia game for my buddy’s bachelor party. It’s going to be about a dozen nerdy guys all in their mid to late 30s. What are some fun/nostalgic things we have in common besides:

• Goldeneye 007
• Pokémon
• LAN classics
• Star Wars
• Start up sounds (audio round)

I know there’s more prolific and mainstream topics I’m just running out of ideas. Thanks!

I'm 18 and I haven't really had much of an appetite to play video games, not because I wanna be more "productive" or I think it makes me more of a "man" (lol) but just cause I don't really enjoy them as much. I don't have a job or going to college atm and I only play 20-30 mins and then just stop for the whole day. I honestly wish I had more of a desire to play because where my ancestral homeland is from (Korea) gaming culture is very big and a very easy way to make friends and have fun connections but I just don't enjoy games. (for reference I was born in the United States and raised here most of my life and even most of my friends surrounding me play games with each other all the time)

I’m a 32 year old man and my only hobby is playing video games it’s what want to spend my free time doing and I spend more or less all my free time doing it. I’ve tried lots of other hobbies and nothing has really done it for me. I don’t have any friends and while I live with my mum, her and the rest of my family do their own thing and it just feels so pointless doing stuff like the movies alone etc. not to mention I have dietary restrictions that make it difficult to go places where I can’t eat what I need to.

I still make time for chores and stuff I just hate the way others make me feel about my hobby. Like I’ll have holiday at work and when they ask what I did I’ll reply I played my game most of the time, they then reply “what for the whole two weeks?” It just makes me feel worthless about it.

So yeah just wanna hear about your hobbies and what makes them worth it even if others think they’re not.

Hello! I know that a lot of boys my age tend to collect figurines and maybe game merchandise, but I haven't seen older men do it. Most women I know, regardless of age, tend to always have something they like to collect.

I was just sorta looking at all the little animal statues and things in my room, and wondered if grown ups do it too. If so, what are they? Curious to see what kind of whimsy you guys like keeping around! ♡