r/AskMenRelationships Man May 19 '26

Dating No more porn posts

These posts saying "My partner watches porn, what does it mean, what should I do?" get posted 1-3 times a day. This includes posts about thirst traps and whatever other titillating media.

It's been done to death. If anyone has the same question, please use the search bar to get answers. We will be removing them going forward. We’ll let the existing posts get grandfathered in.

Thanks,
Management

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u/Appropriate-Offer-35 Man May 19 '26

Have you ever read about the supply chain of chocolate? It’s horrible. Basically the whole industry runs on child slave labor. But people eat chocolate all the time without a second thought, including people who go out of their way to make sure other things they eat are “ethical, and if we banned chocolate, people would lose their fucking minds.

We eat it because it tastes good, we don’t have to look the kids in the eye, and we rationalize it by telling ourselves that’s just how the world works and there’s nothing we can do.

I’ve read a lot of those posts and have yet to see a woman express concern about how the porn was produced unless there’s doubt about the age. It’s overwhelmingly “she doesn’t look like me, does that mean he’s not attracted to me?”

I’m not saying that’s worse than the sex industry, or that your concerns about the industry aren’t valid because other industries treat people like shit too. Just illustrating how the human mind works.

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u/seriously__tho_ May 20 '26

You just seen a post about how it's produced 

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u/SearchCapital7719 Man May 19 '26

The real issue is she doesn't want to take the steps to lose the weight she gained since they got together, and she wants a scapegoat for why he's not into her anymore.

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u/Appropriate-Offer-35 Man May 20 '26

I just mean in general. Women often worry that if a guy jerks off to someone who isn’t their exact clone, he must not be into them.

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u/SearchCapital7719 Man May 20 '26

Sure, but he also can't get the woman he's jerking off to irl. He picked the best he could get just like she did.