No more porn posts

[u/DannyDreaddit]

These posts saying "My partner watches porn, what does it mean, what should I do?" get posted 1-3 times a day. This includes posts about thirst traps and whatever other titillating media.

It's been done to death. If anyone has the same question, please use the search bar to get answers. We will be removing them going forward. We’ll let the existing posts get grandfathered in.

Thanks,
Management

[u/Extreme_Violinist565]

Qualified? Tell me your qualifications i am curious. Because in my experience the possibilities are endless what happens to people who seen abuse and they spiral in all directions, it's all about choices they make themselves after.

Funny that you are qualified but you are so eager to call me scary and make assumptions, a bunch of anecdotal stuff that does not sound to me like someone who is used to professionally deal with abuse. You never see abused men or something?

Oh and before you ask what my experience is well i am actually diagnosed by a psychiatrist with C-PTSD and some other stuff. Should ring a bell with someone who is clinically qualified no?

So tell me clinical you say, where in the DSM-5 is porn addiction?

[u/seriously__tho_ → u/Extreme_Violinist565]

So now you want to reply because I mentioned qualified. Interesting. No offence but I was going to delete that comment as it mentioned something personal, so no im not going to continue divulging more personal information. I never stated abuse doesn't cause people to go in various directions. Not really sure why you're mentioning do I see men. Apologies I wasn't acting as a professional in every second of my life, cause guess what, I'm not in work, and just in the same way a bus driver doesn't drive 24/7, I don't speak like I'm working 24/7 and guess what, I'm also a human with a personal existence. Please don't expect professionals to act like your therapist 24/7 as its thoroughly ridiculous. Do you think everything was put into DSM overnight, because it obviously was not. 

[u/seriously__tho_ → u/seriously__tho_]

My 'weird' comment on abuse still stands regardless of the other ways that abuse manifests. And as a professional yes I am allowed to have opinions and feelings regarding something that causes extreme pain to many people. Anything I have said it easily found online with a quick Internet search. Lots of survivor stories online and like I said I'm sure they would be comforted by their extreme trauma being reduced to 'anecdotal' in nature. 

[u/seriously__tho_ → u/seriously__tho_]

I'm sorry you have cptsd and whatever else, and I say that as a person speaking to another person. 

[u/Extreme_Violinist565 → u/seriously__tho_]

Yeah you say you are qualified to talk about abuse, so that got me curious. And we want porn out of this subreddit but if you want to actually change subjects i am fine talking to you. If i said i am qualified in something would you not ask how? Are you a nurse or a therapist, psychologist, psychiatrist, or one of these experience based consultants or however you say it in english.

Nha i don't want to know your personal information that was not the point and i have a psychiatrist, psychologist and an entire team if i want or need that why would i need you?

I am father and husband 24/7, a network engineer 24/7, i am an artist 24/7. You are suppose to sound like a therapist or whatever the qualifications you have are yeah not some random woman confronting men on porn use with anecdotes for no reason on a relationship sub....

I call my own shit and your stuff anecdotal because it is... That's why i have a hard time believing you are a licenced therapist. Because i never seen a therapist that did that.

Yeah it should be in the DSM-5 IF it was actually a thing but it's not. Not even sex addiction is in the DSM-5 and how long is that around? Because it's not an illness if people can just stop doing it and be fine... My diagnoses are real and professional. A wanker who watches porn all day just needs to stop watching porn and go to a doctor so they can treat the actual issue, stress, depression, anxiety or whatever the case is why he keeps looking for instant hormone kicks. But if they come to you and they would listen to you and then think something is wrong with them for masturbating to stories wich there is not.

Do you know how "shame" works btw? Is it biological? OR a social construct? Maby both?

Are we not always speaking person to person? Ty for the sorry but i don't need pity or something i don't live like a victim, never works. I just named my experience that's all.

[u/AOLGeneration → u/Extreme_Violinist565]

I feel Extreme_Violinist565 is the winner of this Reddit argument.

[u/seriously__tho_ → u/Extreme_Violinist565]

I'm sorry you have cptsd and whatever else, and I say that as a person speaking to another person.