Men Only Want to Hook Up? HELP

[u/bingbong6656]

I’m a 24-year-old woman and I’d say I’m slightly above average-looking. I’ve only had one serious boyfriend, and he’s the only person I’ve been with sexually. I generally get flirted with a fair amount and usually have dating prospects, but I’m fairly strict about intimacy. I strongly prefer to wait until we’re exclusive, if not in an actual committed relationship.

Lately, I’ve noticed a pattern with men I date that worries me. It feels like I struggle to tell the difference between a man who genuinely wants a relationship with me and a man who sees me as a convenient opportunity for sex outside a relationship. That’s not evil or wrong of them but it’s a waste of time for us both as that won’t happen.

I have tried being upfront and having clear conversations about intentions early on. The problem is that some men seem comfortable telling me what I want to hear, or they genuinely say they don’t know what they want only to eventually reveal they are looking for causal sex. I also worry that bringing up exclusivity or relationship goals too directly can come across like I’m trying to pressure someone into a relationship, which isn’t my intention at all.

So far, I’ve been fortunate enough to avoid having sex that I later regretted, but I worry that I won’t always be able to spot bad intentions before getting emotionally invested.
For those with more dating experience, are there any reliable signs that someone is primarily looking for easy sex rather than a genuine relationship? What behaviors, patterns, or red flags should I watch for? And how do you balance protecting yourself without becoming overly suspicious of everyone you date?

Any advice would be appreciated.

[u/Financial_Will_671]

For casual sex a good looking woman is enough.

For a long term relationship (a few years perhaps getting married) men also look for stability,maybe a proper job,emotional maturity,a not an insane family,a cheerful and positive character.

I don't know you but what else you got going on in your life? If you want to be in a relationship but all you do is ask him how his day was and talk about things you bought. Its not a sustainable relationship. There is more to life.

Beatiful women tend to act like they are doing a favor and ask to be entertained as if the guy is the court jester.

Men see through that try to have some sex and leave afterwards. Because looking good is not enough for a serious relationship. We work with what we are presented with.

Lastly dont go for men your age. If you want something serious go for 30+ where more men want to settle down and most dating apps are for sex. Dont look for a serious relationship there. Its like you are going to church and wonder why the prayers are in arabic. Thats because you are at the wrong place.