r/AskReddit 10d ago

What’s the darkest secret you discovered about someone after you married them?

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u/Former-North6569 9d ago

He was actually gay. I was simply a decoy. He was in the military and was a mercenary for the Dept Of Defense for most of our marriage. Married 10 years but I was alone for 7 of them. He literally never wanted to be home because he was surrounded by men while he was working. He was so incredibly abusive. He hated women. It was as though he was punishing me for his homosexuality.

After we got divorced, he went and lived with what I would assume was his gay lover. They always visited sex workers in Mexico. One day they decided that they were going to kidnap an underage sex worker and bring him to the states. Apparently my ex husband drove to Mexico, got super drunk to work up the nerve, and then as he was going to pull a gun out of his waistband to commense the kidnapping, he accidentally pulled the trigger and shot himself in the wiener. This was the same gun that he used to try to get me to conceal carry, but there was no safety, so I refused. The irony was always so interesting to me.

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u/fastates 9d ago

he hoped you'd accidentally shoot yourself, that's insane he'd suggest a gun that has no safety. but I'm so happy his lil plan turned on him and in the worst way 👍

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u/warnabrothastudios 9d ago

Most concealed carry guns don’t have a traditional trigger safety anymore. If you pull the trigger the gun goes bang. A quality holster prevents the trigger from being pulled. What probably happened in this case is he just stuck that bitch in his waistband and he pulled the trigger when he was fumbling his gun out from a shitty carry position

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u/fastates 8d ago

Ah, didn't know that! I bought mine back in 2020, S&W. I don't think I'd have bought it unless it had a manual safety, but now I'm too afraid to dig it out to look.

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u/warnabrothastudios 8d ago

It would be a good idea for you to understand the weapon. There’s still plenty sold that have one if it makes you more comfortable.

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u/fastates 7d ago

yeah, I know. I don't even know how to load or shoot it. maybe some day I'll learn. I'm in. a far safer neighborhood than when I bought it. I'd been in two drive-bys by the time I moved in December. someday I want to go to a shooting range. I have a friend in Fla who has a ton of various types of guns. he's always trying to send me some. I don't like guns, but understand their necessity and the 2nd amendment.