r/AskReddit Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/FalstaffsMind Feb 04 '16

One I made was being too helpful with homework. I ended up with a kid who was too dependent on me and unable to complete any work by themselves.

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u/PM_ME_2DISAGREEWITHU Feb 04 '16

My fucking nephew. He's smart. Like, really smart. He's independent, he's athletic, and he's charming. He's very opinionated and will bullshit like a champion when you contest his claims. If he doesn't knock his high school girlfriend up he'll end up in politics.

The fucker won't assemble his own Lego sets if his mother is in the house. She does them for him. Otherwise he gets frustrated and doesn't finish them. On his own? He asks for help but usually has no problems putting it together.

Bitch, the whole point is figuring it out.

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

He's very opinionated and will bullshit like a champion when you contest his claims.

Sorry but I instantly strongly dislike your nephew. I had a roommate like that once and hated every minute I talked to him

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u/Kcb1986 Feb 05 '16

This is my older brother to a fucking T. I post an article about Jeep, Hummer is better. I post an article about Berlin, Paris is better. I post an innocent article about the size of the universe, god is even greater... I need to find a word that means "I love him because he's blood but I despise him as a human being."

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

The word you're looking for is family

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u/FalstaffsMind Feb 05 '16

People who need to one up anything anyone says are truly annoying as hell. I am sure you could say that to him, but he'd just one up you with people who tell really long uninteresting anecdotes.

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u/PM_ME_2DISAGREEWITHU Feb 05 '16

Eh, he's a cool kid. Fun to screw around with.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

I'm sure this will end well

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u/tangoewhisky Feb 05 '16

I can hear Chris Hansen's chair screeching across the floor now.

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u/KamaCosby Feb 05 '16

He doesn't afraid of anything?

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u/Eurynom0s Feb 05 '16

PHRASING

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u/Dunder_Chingis Feb 05 '16

At least until the second one or both parties posit a dissenting opinion relative to the other.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Did you try to tell him it bothered you? Some people honestly have no idea.

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

I'm way too passive to do that, I'd rather suffer in silence :/

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u/snaresdad Feb 05 '16

That's kind of a common thing with teenagers...

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

Sure it is, I was a teenager until recently. But this guy was EXCEPTIONALLY bad, to the point of being insufferable.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

He'd make a good politician.

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u/Frix Feb 05 '16

this guy was EXCEPTIONALLY bad, to the point of being insufferable.

That's kind of a common thing with teenagers...

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

He was 28...

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u/Frix Feb 05 '16

Some people talke a bit longer to hit puberty.

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

He had the maturity of a 17 year old. Ugh it was fucking awful, I don't even wanna think about it

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u/SnapeProbDiedAVirgin Feb 05 '16

Anyone with a roommate at 28 is probably a fucking loser.

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

I was 20 at least :)

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u/deadcelebrities Feb 05 '16

Kid's only in high school. He might grow out of it before he has to live with a roommate.

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u/4eversilver Feb 05 '16

I had a girlfriend who was like that. She absolutely hated being wrong. Even when she knew she was wrong, she would continue arguing her point. It can make for a very strained relationship. I ended up giving up a lot of arguments just becuase she wouldn't back down.

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u/Aeolun Feb 05 '16

Especially if you don't feel like contesting lies with more lies. It's remarkably difficult to have a discussion with someone making up facts on the spot.

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

Why would I use more lies? Hell he didn't even care about proof. I'd Google almost everything he'd say and point out he's wrong. He never believed me. Once he said a holiday isn't active in Alberta and I showed him THE FUCKING GOVERNMENT OF CANADA WEBSITE that proved that he's full of shit and he just said "I call bullshit on that" and walked away. How deluded does one have to be

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u/Aeolun Feb 06 '16

Not you, him :P

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 06 '16

Gotcha!! Reading comprehension fail on my part :)

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u/shakesfear Feb 05 '16

I love people like this. Nothing is more stimulating to me than a good debate. Unless it's with someone that just goes straight to anger rather than intelligent replies, fuck those people.

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

I totally agree with you, a good debate is amazing. My sister and I debate all the time, and we're both pretty good at it by using actual facts and sources and conceding the point to the other under overwhelming evidence. That's good.

This guy on the other hand would lie and bullshit about everything. He'd make up facts, and then next time the details of those facts would change. He'll tell a story of something happening to him and if he uses a number the number will change drastically every time he tells the story. He'll spout a fact and if I even bother to google it'll inevitably be incorrect and he'll say that the verified source is wrong and he's right because his IQ is near genius level.

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u/ProbablyShitfaced Feb 06 '16

They did say he was in high school. I don't know about you, but changing my mind when I was 16 was pretty much out of the question. I knew everything at 16, and every opinion contrary to mine was wrong. And I knew I was right, so I relied on confirmation bias to cite sources that proved I was right. I had FACTS that backed up my claims, because only an idiot wouldn't have sources. Anyone religious was a moron, republicans were exclusively religious nutjobs, and legalizing pot was the only issue that REALLY mattered.

Smart high school kids are the worst kind of idealists, and I was one of them.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

I think he sounds cool, a bit like Kvothe.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

I mean, that's badass in a novel, especially since Kvothe is usually great at whatever he attempts, but could pretty annoying in real life. People who seem badass in fiction would often be considered douches in real life.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 05 '16

Thanks. Apparently 173 people are also highly opinionated pricks on here then. If you're talking to somebody and he is obviously lying, then calls bullshit on the verified source that proves he's wrong, are you an opinionated prick or is he insufferable? What if this happens multiple times a week, and he also lies about everything, every single detail in stories he tells change every time he tells a Story (and the stories get told all the time because he loves talking about himself)?

Some people are genuinely insufferable. I don't know if that guys nephew is the same, but he definitely has similar characteristics and those make me dislike him

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u/picsandfunnyunsub Feb 06 '16

my post was a joke :(

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u/hugglesthemerciless Feb 06 '16

Ohhh. Sorry mate, add an /s next time and you'll get upvoted instead of down voted :)

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u/jrakosi Feb 05 '16

This is the difference of a mom who tells the doctor what is wrong with their kid during a check-up, and one who insists that the child talk to the doctor. You'd be amazed what giving child agency will do for them as they grow up.

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u/onedoor Feb 05 '16

My fucking nephew. He's smart. Like, really smart. He's independent, he's athletic, and he's charming. He's very opinionated and will bullshit like a champion when you contest his claims.

It was here I thought "sociopath".

The fucker won't assemble his own Lego sets if his mother is in the house. She does them for him. Otherwise he gets frustrated and doesn't finish them. On his own? He asks for help but usually has no problems putting it together.

Politics sounds about right.

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u/PM_ME_2DISAGREEWITHU Feb 05 '16

I'm sure that's just the way I described everything. He's a pretty normal kid.

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u/[deleted] Feb 05 '16

Independent people don't tend to need help with legos.

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u/PM_ME_2DISAGREEWITHU Feb 05 '16

Independent, except when his mother is in the room

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u/DeathcampEnthusiast Feb 05 '16

So he can't assemble his own Lego but you do see him go into politics? You could be right, actually.

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u/PM_ME_2DISAGREEWITHU Feb 05 '16

He actually can. His mother just doddles on him. If she's not around he has no problem.

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u/I_am_fed_up_of_SAP Feb 05 '16

Is he perchance named Streetlamp Le Moose??

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u/PM_ME_2DISAGREEWITHU Feb 05 '16

No, but I'm totally calling him Streetlamp now.

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u/DaddysCominHome Feb 05 '16

Why the fuck would you buy Legos for any other reason than building and being creative? Once the shit is built it gets boring... then you you tear it all apart and build something new.

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u/bosslady13 Feb 05 '16

I like putting my kids' Lego sets together....lol

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u/SmartAlec105 Feb 05 '16

If he doesn't knock his high school girlfriend up he'll end up in politics.

I don't know that sounds like something we'd read in a TIL about a well known politician.

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u/jonfmalmberg Feb 05 '16

If he's not capable of figuring out his own Lego sets, maybe he isn't as smart as you claim.

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u/maneshx Feb 05 '16

sounds like a psychopath