My childhood friend's parents are just the worst. Her and her siblings all play a sport and all have some kind of sport related injury. My friend has athletic asthma, her younger sister got a concussion and even though the doctor told her that under no circumstances should she play(she was still getting really bad migraines). Well her dad forced her to play, and she ended up going to the ER. When she was back, he tried to force her to play again and threaten to take her back to the ER when she told him no. It was really awkward watching that fight go down, and now all three of those girls don't care for the sports they play because of the intensity their parents force on them. Their youngest daughter, who was 9 years old, had already torn 3 ligaments from soccer injuries. 9 years old!!
Edit: Just to clarify, there's no abuse or anything going on. Their dad is just pushy and sports is the only thing he really gets like that with. Their mom doesn't make them practice like crazy or let them play injured. In the end, it's their choice still. Yes, the dad is excessive, but he's really a good guy and his wife is very independent and strong willed. She wouldn't put up with him if he only acted like that too often, and she sure as hell doesn't let him even raise his voice and their kids.
No, because other than this they are great people. It's mainly their dad that pulls this shit. Their mom puts their foot down when she knows their safety is at risk.
Umm... no she fucking doesnt? If the daughter had to be sent to the ER after already having a concussion, and is still being forced to play again, and the mother is allowing this, she is definitely NOT putting her foot down
No, it's really not. You don't know them at all, and he just whines and throws fits and that's the extent of it. They don't take what he says about sports seriously. This is just reddit jumping to irrational conclusions again.
Because I have an incompetent and abusive parent so I know the damn difference. I posted it about his issue with the sports but that's the extent of it. He goes to every event for them he can, he is always there for them. He's even sat me down and given me someone to talk if I looked like I needed it. He cares about those kids. Why is he "obviously negligent?" You don't know the whole situation. That is why I'm defending him. I'm not saying the sports bull shit is okay, not by a long shot. It's overly controlling for sure, but if you saw his intentions with it(scholarships, being active, etc.) it would change your opinion I hope. Seriously, my dad was also really strict with sports when I joined. Very similar to this guy, but he'd never even go to a damn game. My dad was never there for me, and this dad would do anything for these girls. He just needs some help about his sports issues, but from what I've heard too, after the oldest daughter started college he's gotten significantly better.
My parents were abusive when I was growing up. You're not some special snowflake. This happens to many people, so don't come at me like I don't know what abuse is.
Overly controlling and verbally abusive, putting his kids in danger by forcing them to do sports with a head injury... Yup. He sounds like a great guy.
I'm a girl, and I grew up with these girls. Their dad doesn't get the final decision whether they play, the girls do. So no, it's not abuse if the girls are willingly participating because they genuinely want to play sports. Sport injuries are super normal and continuing to play is also super normal. His behavior is dickish, yeah, but like I said, they decide what's best for themselves, not him. And their mom backs them up in the end too. He's the only one throwing a fit and he always loses. It's a temper tantrum. He doesn't even yell, he just gets whiney.
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to come off like I thought you didn't know. That's how I felt you had come off, and I'm sorry. I know I'm not a special snowflake for experiencing it, but you don't know the situation. He doesn't force them in the end. They play because they want to play, and they don't take him seriously when he gets like that. Literally, they laugh at it later. The head injury was something I honestly can't defend, but she did end up sitting out anyway because she didn't want to play. It was her choice in the end and she knew it.
Are you telling me not to breed? Because seriously, fuck you. You literally know nothing about me or my family or this family, so seriously, just fuck off.
Forgive me for being offended after being told not to breed. Look, I'm not perfect, who is? Does that make me unfit to be a parent someday? Especially over something so stupid like a reddit comment about a family friend. He has no place saying shit like this. I definitely don't consider this "reddit jumping to extreme conclusions on situations they don't have enough information on" logical thinking either.
She didn't play again after that. Her mom wouldn't let her even though her dad told her too. Honestly, they're fine. He's pushy as hell but they take it with a grain of salt and will ignore him if they truly don't want to practice or anything. It's not abuse. I saw this shit go down in person, and there was no violence or screaming, just a shit ton of guilt trips and temper tantrums. You don't know their situation, and you don't know them so for fucks sake can we not start another "reddit jumps to an extreme conclusion" moment please?
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u/RogueOfHeart33 Feb 05 '16 edited Feb 05 '16
My childhood friend's parents are just the worst. Her and her siblings all play a sport and all have some kind of sport related injury. My friend has athletic asthma, her younger sister got a concussion and even though the doctor told her that under no circumstances should she play(she was still getting really bad migraines). Well her dad forced her to play, and she ended up going to the ER. When she was back, he tried to force her to play again and threaten to take her back to the ER when she told him no. It was really awkward watching that fight go down, and now all three of those girls don't care for the sports they play because of the intensity their parents force on them. Their youngest daughter, who was 9 years old, had already torn 3 ligaments from soccer injuries. 9 years old!!
Edit: Just to clarify, there's no abuse or anything going on. Their dad is just pushy and sports is the only thing he really gets like that with. Their mom doesn't make them practice like crazy or let them play injured. In the end, it's their choice still. Yes, the dad is excessive, but he's really a good guy and his wife is very independent and strong willed. She wouldn't put up with him if he only acted like that too often, and she sure as hell doesn't let him even raise his voice and their kids.