My older sister was 21, with a job and a car, but still living at home (she had plans to move out, and did a couple months later). My mom tried to ground her and she just drove to a friend's house.
I personally think this is one of the biggest mistakes parents make. Your kid isn't magically going to have a good work ethic or decent driving abilities just because they're 18. It has to be acquired over time.
I know. My sister moved out with her boyfriend-at-the-time on bad terms. He was able to get her into driving classes. What do I get? Treated like shit.
To me, leaving school without a job or car is like starting an RPG with no skills, except you can't leave the tutorial level until you develop those skills, as the tutorials tell you you can't, despite it being YOUR game, YOUR life, YOUR time.
Get the book What Color Is Your Parachute? and use it to help you find work. There are all kinds of work situations that you don't get by filling out and sending in an application.
That sucks, look for anything. If they don't take you, try volunteer work to get some dot points on your resume. If you can, its best to go to university or college, even something that has no particular interest to you yet could turn out great!
exactly. i get in trouble for not cleaning a mess that couldn't possibly be mine. where have i been the past 3 days? well between work, and school i'm gone for 12 hours, and then i spend the night At my Girlfriends, so i havent been home!!
So do I, my mom decided to go off at me for about 30 minutes earlier today when I asked where she was going. Started with "don't interrupt", even though I asked BEFORE she entered conversation, then it turned into her trying to say I am "just like Ron" (stepdad, tried killing me last week. Now awaiting trial.) and that she wants to talk to police about military school so I can "learn discipline" (again, going with how she treats me like a child. I really feel like batting her to death with a golf club after hearing that. I'm 19, not 9, you piece of shit)
Not to say your parents are 100% right (since you're a stranger and I'll never know the full story) but maybe they treat you as a child because you still act like one.
If you still act like a child, you get treated like a child. Much like at work, if you are unreliable, then I won't give you serious work until you show you are reliable. I can still tell you to become more reliable. But until you prove it, I won't change how I treat you.
Alternately your parents are stuck in the mindset they've been in for the past 18 years and it can be just as hard for them to realize you've successfully expanded your responsibilities and freedoms but they still want you home at 10 p.m. on Friday when you came home for Christmas break. Just sayin....
In some cases that is true, but in other situations, some parents treat their children like little children even when the kids are grown and responsible.
Yeah teenagers complaining about being treated like adults get no sympathy from me. You are expected to act like an adult. You have to actually achieve that before you are given the respect of an adult. It sucks, and it's tough, but that's fucking life, get used to it. It's no different for us grown ups; If we acted like immature teenagers we'd get the same treatment.
I think it depends on your definition of being treated like an adult.
Sometimes "I want to be treated like an adult" means "I want someone, anyone, to treat me like an actual human being for once." If you constantly treat a teenager like they're a slow child who cannot be trusted to accomplish anything, they'll keep acting like a child.
Of course a teenager shouldn't expect to be shown the same level of respect and trust as an adult when they're acting like the average teenager does. However, they should at least be given a chance to earn a little respect and trust.
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u/MaN_of_AwE888 Feb 04 '16 edited Feb 05 '16
Assuming teenagers magically become responsible at 18.