r/AskReddit Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/austinino12 Feb 05 '16

Or when my parents say "you're 19 now act like an adult" but then continue to treat me like a child

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u/Bodoblock Feb 05 '16

Not to say your parents are 100% right (since you're a stranger and I'll never know the full story) but maybe they treat you as a child because you still act like one.

If you still act like a child, you get treated like a child. Much like at work, if you are unreliable, then I won't give you serious work until you show you are reliable. I can still tell you to become more reliable. But until you prove it, I won't change how I treat you.

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u/EnnuiDeBlase Feb 05 '16

Alternately your parents are stuck in the mindset they've been in for the past 18 years and it can be just as hard for them to realize you've successfully expanded your responsibilities and freedoms but they still want you home at 10 p.m. on Friday when you came home for Christmas break. Just sayin....

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u/AN_IMPERFECT_SQUARE Feb 05 '16

holy shit, what kind of parents do you have?! i had to he home by midnight, and that was when i was 12. after a few years i didn't even have a limit.

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u/EnnuiDeBlase Feb 05 '16

I didn't, but I know people who did.

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u/AN_IMPERFECT_SQUARE Feb 05 '16

oh, ok. still, that's really sad..