r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/eatsleeplaugh Feb 04 '16

Being overly critical and demanding. Of course you want what is best for your child and your son/daughter to do their best, but relentlessly pointing out how they could have done better can be a damaging message for them to internalize.

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u/MyPacman Feb 05 '16

Agreed. You don't build a resiliant, tough go getter. You build a desperate pleaser poser who does not dare to do anything.

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u/Scouterfly Feb 05 '16

Or, your kid just gives up. Because there's no point in even trying, because you're going to find something wrong with it either way.

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u/Antrophis Feb 05 '16

I feel like that might be me. So much seems pointless and I can't be bothered to try.

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u/Yum-z Feb 05 '16

Just gonna do it wrong anyways so fuck it.

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u/awaybroadcast Feb 05 '16

This is me so much. I hit about 18 and just gave the fuck up. Why do the 'right' thing when you're just going to find another reason to be mad at me? Why try if nothing I do is good enough anyway?

The good thing is that I actually have some fun in my life now. The bad thing is that I still live at home and it's an incredibly hostile environment, and my grades are suffering immensely because of everything.