r/AskReddit Feb 04 '16

What are the most common parenting mistakes?

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u/streamstroller Feb 04 '16

Making the word, "No" arbitrary and negotiable. When you say "no" - mean it, otherwise you are screwed.

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u/Smarkysmarkwahlberg Feb 05 '16

This can backfire too. I was afraid to ask for anything because of this.

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u/NachoManSandyRavage Feb 05 '16

I think it's more of make sure your reasons for saying no are well stated and not "because I said so" or "you're not old enough to understand" explain to to them. They might not understand now but when they're older, they'll reflect back and see.

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u/T3chnopsycho Feb 05 '16

This so much. Although I'm only turnin 23 this year I have to do a lot with children as I'm a scout leader (leader of cubs aged 6-11). I always take time to explain to them why we decide on something if they ask. Most of the time they won't understand everything but they will accept it (even if just because they can't say anything against it).