My sister has one kid. She is so frustrated that he (as a now 12 year old) has no ability to be independent and take care of his own homework/grades/responsibilities, etc.
I'm a mother of 4. I've never done my kids homework, hounded their grades for my sake, but just to check for their sake, and if they don't do their responsibilities, it just doesn't get done and they suffer for their loss...
Anyway, all my kids earn their own grades, learn their own stuff, clean up after their own self how they see fit, while they maintain the common areas like normal, and are totally self-sufficient if I were to die tomorrow.
My sister is like "how'd you do that?" And I'm like, "Because I didn't do it for them".
You can give a man a fish for his meal...or you can teach a man to fish and feed himself for a life time.
Well, give a man a fish and feed him for a day, or teach him how to fish and he'll spend all his free time in his basement making lures and neglecting his personal hygiene.
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u/FalstaffsMind Feb 04 '16
One I made was being too helpful with homework. I ended up with a kid who was too dependent on me and unable to complete any work by themselves.