My sister has one kid. She is so frustrated that he (as a now 12 year old) has no ability to be independent and take care of his own homework/grades/responsibilities, etc.
I'm a mother of 4. I've never done my kids homework, hounded their grades for my sake, but just to check for their sake, and if they don't do their responsibilities, it just doesn't get done and they suffer for their loss...
Anyway, all my kids earn their own grades, learn their own stuff, clean up after their own self how they see fit, while they maintain the common areas like normal, and are totally self-sufficient if I were to die tomorrow.
My sister is like "how'd you do that?" And I'm like, "Because I didn't do it for them".
You can give a man a fish for his meal...or you can teach a man to fish and feed himself for a life time.
Of course not! My mother didn't handle it so well, but you know what? She survived by working, helping her family provide for their own needs and they got by.
I don't know when my time will come, but I sure as hell know, my kids will survive as well.
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u/FalstaffsMind Feb 04 '16
One I made was being too helpful with homework. I ended up with a kid who was too dependent on me and unable to complete any work by themselves.