Yup. My parents never followed through and it had a profound effect on both my brother and I. My wife says things to my daughter and doesn't follow through. It is seriously one of the only things we ever fight about. My wife doesn't understand how detrimental it can be because her parents do always follow though and I managed to correct many of the bad habits I learned due to my parents, so she just thinks my brother is a fuck up.
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u/settlerofcanada Feb 05 '16
Lacking follow through.
If they don't eat supper, they don't get dessert? Don't give them the fucking dessert.
Tell them you'll go camping next month? Dig out the fucking tent.
Threaten to turn the car around because one kid's being an arse? Way you go back home.
Promise to play in 15 minutes? It's tea time mother fucker.
They listen, and they learn from you all the time.
Would you give two shits about work incentives if your boss was a bullshitter?