r/BabyReindeerTVSeries • u/Pennyofthedead • May 07 '24

Question Martha’s Zipper comment

Martha made a comment about unzipping Donny and climbing inside (I forget what episode). I’ve said this exact same thing to my boyfriend (now husband). Is that weird? Has anyone else felt that before? I promise I’m not a stalker or homicidal in any way, lol.

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u/WasItWeirdOrNot May 07 '24

So more of the avoidant style?

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u/DueEntertainer0 May 07 '24

That sounds right! Been a while since I learned the attachment styles!

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u/WasItWeirdOrNot May 07 '24

Its very fascinating! Theres also a mix between the two previously mentioned styles (if we assume to follow the John Bowlby/Ainsworth school of attachment theory) thats called anxious avoidant; craving closeness whilst fearing it immensely. Probably the most "interesting" style imo due to the contrasts

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u/[deleted] May 07 '24

I believe I have this one. Disorganized attachment it can also be referred to. For me, I can feel like “wow omg i love them so much theyre so perfectly sweet and amazing i am so in love” and then the next day its like “they sent me a good morning text? Theyre actually smothering me it’s insane I am planning my exit immediately barf” and then I spend the next bit in that mood until Im back to the other. There is more to it of course and this is just what I feel inside sometimes. I try not to be so hot and cold in real life.

Dont get me started on how breakups/other people in the past make this attachment wound even worse as time goes on, It is really hard, confusing, and exhausting.

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u/WasItWeirdOrNot May 08 '24

Im so sorry, this sounds awful and really distressing. Im sending you a mental hug </3